LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP ANGLE

1.Be silent In the heat of anger

2. Be silent When you don't have all the facts

3. Be silent When you haven't verified the story

4. Be silent If your words will offend a weaker person

5. Be silent When it is time to listen

6. Be silent when you are tempted to make light of holy things

7. Be silent When you are tempted to joke about sin

8. Be silent If you would be ashamed of your words later

9. Be silent If your words would convey the wrong impression

10. Be silent If the issue is none of your business

11. Be silent When you are tempted to tell an outright lie

12. Be silent If your words will damage someone else's reputation

13. Be silent If your words will damage a friendship

14. Be silent When you are feeling critical

15. Be silent If you can't say it without screaming it

16. Be silent If your words will be a poor reflection of the Lord or your friends and family

17. Be silent If you may have to eat your words later

 18. Be silent If you have already said it more than one time  

19. Be silent When you are tempted to flatter a wicked person

20. Be silent When you are supposed to be working instead

"WHOEVER GUARDS HIS MOUTH AND TONGUE KEEPS HIS SOUL FROM TROUBLES"

There were two houses standing next to each other. In one of them resided a very unhappy family. The spouses yelled at each other, they fought and quarreled all the time. The other was a place of happiness and calm.

During one of the fights the wife asked her husband:
“Did you ever hear them quarrel or yell over at that house? No!
So, go there and see what they do to avoid it!”

The husband stood at the window of his neighbors and watched. There they were busy doing their own thing.

The wife was in the kitchen cooking, and the man sat at the table writing. The phone rang, and the man jumped up and headed to the hallway to get it.

On his way he bumped into a vase, it fell and broke. He got down to his knees and started picking up the pieces. The wife ran into the room from the kitchen. She also kneeled down and started helping her husband to pick them up.

The man said to his wife:
“I am so sorry. I rushed to get the phone and bumped into the vase. It fell and got broken.”
The wife replied:
“No, honey, it is my fault. I put it there on the way. That’s why you bumped into it.”
They kissed, and that was over. Both got back to what they were doing.

The man who watched them returned to his wife. The wife wanted to know what the secret of their happiness was. What he said was fantastic:

*“I know it now. In their family they both are guilty and in our family both of us are always right!”*

That’s the secret of family happiness!

Food for thought.

The "trick" isn't in not wanting to take responsibility, but rather in not claiming right.

There are times you need to forfeit your right to win your peace: depends on which you cherish most.

This recipe is applicable, not only in the home, but also:

-at work
-on the road
-in the market place
-between nations.
-in all relationships.

Wishing you a meaningfully peaceful lifetime.

The “windows of heaven” aren’t a bank, but they are the openings from which all of life’s blessings flow.

When the windows of heaven are open over your home, there is joy and happiness.

When the windows of heaven are open over your business, there is fruitfulness and prosperity.

When the windows of heaven are open over your mind, there is peace and confidence.

When the windows of heaven are open over your body and soul, there is health and contentment.

God loves to bless His children.

The Key to Everything

Malachi 10:3

I guess we are in the end time, what should we call this kind of dressing from an elderly lady like this???

Am not a football fan.... But this story I read caught me thinking..... Its long, but please, patiently read to the end....

I remember the historic football match between Nigeria and Brazil in Atlanta 1996.
Brazil was the king of global football and they knew it. So, Nigeria losing to Brazil that night would not be a big deal. Gosh! Brazil dealt with us that night. Till around 77th minutes (about 12 minutes to the end of the game) Brazil was obviously dominating the game. The score line was Brazil 3, Nigeria 1.
Despite the Brazil squad including star names such as Carlos, Rivaldo, Bebeto and Ronaldo, Nigerians watching the game still think Nigeria did not deserve such humiliation by Brazil boys, we had been beaten mercilessly. Nigerians became angry toward the end of the match; many had turned off their Television sets, some were shedding tears. While few hoped and prayed that we would not be further disgraced with yet another goal.
But the unimaginable happened in the game. At about 78th minutes Victor Ikpeba stroked from 20 meters to score the second goal, everything changed beyond the 3:2 score line. Pressure came upon Brazil. And hope for the Nigeria players, they became more motivated and began to fire shots from every angle. Then another miracle, at the 90th minute, just before the final whistle, Kanu Nwankwo turned and flipped the ball over Dida and it was another goal, the equalizer. What a wonderful match.
And there was a rule then, “the Golden Goal”. That the first to score in the extra time wins the game. Then came the decisive goal from Papilo in just 3 minutes of the extra time… And that was how the messy game became a message.

A lot can still be done this year to make it a glorious year, the remaining part of the year is sufficient to define the whole year. Don't loose hope now. It is too early to give up on your beautiful expectations for this year. It is not over until it is over. Wipe off the tears and buckle your shoes.
1. Review
2. Restrategize
3. Relaunch.
You will win. Resist the pull  of fatigue regardless of the past disappointments, delayed gratification, failures, and broken promises......... keep moving you are getting closer. It is well.

Temptations are part of life happenings. Whether you are a believer or an unbeliever, temptation is something we all need to face and of cause decide to overcome.

Temptation is not really one if it doesn't have the element of pulling you towards what you really desire.

The source of every temptation is your flesh and of course the devil. God will never tempt you to do evil or hurt you, but yes, He can and will test you, usually to know what is in your heart.

The aim of every temptation is to take something out of you. Once you yield to the temptation, what follows are the consequences of the action.

Today, temptations that are sexual in nature is our focus and how to overcome them.

It becomes wise of us to recognize sexual temptations on the onset no matter how subtle they appear. Any lustful desire pulling you to fulfill its desire falls under this category.

Whether it's a desire to masturbate, view pornography, kiss, engage in heavy petting and necking, lustfully looking at a guy or lady, touching in a sexual manner, sexual thoughts, etc, note that all sexual temptations starts first in a seed form.

That seed is usually a thought. However, a thought gains access into the heart or mind through the eye gate, the ear gate, touch or your taste.

Once you can control what enters your mind through the various gates, you have mastered the important part to overcoming sexual temptations.

The fact is that sexual temptations will always come. Since you cannot control every one 's action, you can't control anybody, for example, what a lady out there wears.

She may decide to go half naked. But you can control what your eyes and mind does with such a sight.

Also know that every sexual temptation seeks to destroy you, period. If you treat all sexual temptations this way, it will help you in dealing with them accordingly.

How to overcome sexual temptations

1. Do not take sexual temptations and advances with levity.
Don't enjoy the thoughts, deal with them. Don't assume you are strong enough or nothing can happen.

2. Nip all forms of sexual temptations in the bud. It's easy to handle a sexual thought than to overcome an already compromised situation.

3. God's word is your strongest source of strength to overcoming sexual temptations. Make sure you have God's word in your heart richly.

4. Flee, literally all compromising situations. Don't consider or calculate. Flee first, then reason later.

5. Avoid unnecessary closeness with the opposite gender that you admire and fits your idea of beauty or that you are attracted to.

6. Be bold in your resolve to say NO to sexual temptation in your heart first. Once your mind is made up, it becomes easier in reality.

7. Don't deceive yourself. Be sincere and true to yourself.

8. Confess God's word that particularly addresses the issue of overcoming sexual temptations especially if you easily find yourself struggling in this area. Don't this as a background check before the temptation comes.

9. If you are in a relationship, set boundaries in your relationship to avoid sexual compromises.

10. Be in charge of what accesses your heart. Don't watch pornography and then wonder why you have having sexual urges or thoughts.

11. Be a spirit controlled believer. Be a word and praying Christian.

What is it about?

One day, Professor John Morgan entered his class and asked his students to prepare for a surprise test. They all waited anxiously at their desks for the exam to begin.
John handed out the exams with the text facing down, as usual. Once he handed them all out, he asked the students to turn over the papers. To everyone’s surprise, there were no questions– just a black dot in the center of the paper.
The Professor, seeing the expression on everyone’s faces, told them the following: “I want you to write about what you see there.” The students, confused, got started on the inexplicable task.
At the end of the class, the professor took all the exams, and started reading each one of them out loud in front of all the students. All of them, with no exception, defined the black dot, trying to explain its position in the center of the sheet.
After all had been read, the classroom was silent.. Professor John Morgan smiled & said.. I’m not going to grade you on this, I just wanted to give you something to think about.
I'm surprise no one wrote about the white part of the paper which is bigger than the black dot. Everyone focused on the black dot – and the same thing happens in our lives.
However, we insist on focusing only on the black dot – the health issues that bother us, the lack of money, delay marriage, exams failure, difficult relationship, loneliness, hardships on campus, disappointment with a friend....etc.
The dark spots are very small when compared to everything we have in our lives, but they are the ones that pollute our minds because we give it too much attention.
Take your eyes away from the black dots in your lives. Enjoy each one of your blessings, each moment that life gives you. Be happy and live a life filled with love, faith & hope!
That's what the white part of life is all about.
Enjoy the moment..Remember that our main goal in life is not happiness,  but goodness.
Not reputation, but character.
Not wealth, but virtue.
Not fame, but faith.
Not the approval of man, but God.

When someone comes and tells you, I can't sleep without you, I love you the way you are and I can put up with your good and bad attitude. Before you commit your heart please GIVE IT TIME.

When You meet someone today and feel like marrying him/her tomorrow, before you do remember you need to GIVE IT TIME.

When you visit your uncle and you are to stay there for 2 weeks holidays, don't be carried away that they serve you your preferred food and give you hot water to bath during your first two days and you start making arrangement to relocate to their house, First GIVE IT TIME.

When a brother visits you and wakes you up by his shouting of prayer from 12am to 6am, please don't shut him down, first GIVE IT TIME.

When a brother joins your fellowship in First year and he is in every group/unit, please don't rush and make him a leader rather GIVE IT TIME.

When you enter a new environment and everybody worships you and eats your messes, don't be carried away just GIVE IT TIME.

When someone comes with a new business with unbelievable
promises, please before you involve your money, first GIVE IT TIME.

When you see a new church in town and you hear their waves, before you conclude about how hot they are first GIVE IT TIME.

Your Uncle or Father told You that you are useless and worthless and can't amount to anything, just laugh it away and ask them to GIVE YOU TIME.

Finally when you are in a cross road of decisions, you don't know what to do, ask the people or person involved to please Give You Time.

SEX IS SWEET BUT........ Have you ever wondered why God carefully positioned a membrane of blood in a lady’s sexual opening? It is a tiny membrane that partially or completely covers the opening of the vagina. It is called the “HYMEN”. Why would God-Our Maker put a breakable tissue full of blood at the very door of the sexual opening of the female? Why is it so carefully placed at that entrance, like a ribbon tied at the entrance of a new house about to be launched?

Why is it filled with blood that spills away when it is broken? Why? Without doubt, the HYMEN IS A GATE! It was God (our creator) who set that blood- filled vessel there as a covenant blockage, a sign and a token of a covenant between the bearer and whoever plunges into her opening. Before God, the dis-virginity of a lady is not a casual act of fun. It is a serious covenant struck and confirmed by the blood shed on that day. This is God’s way of saying, “Whoever plunges in to this woman shall only be able to do so by making a blood covenant to be joined to her for the rest of his life, from that point onward. Little wonder why sexual intercourse was designed by God to take place only and only after the marriage contract is sealed. The one who made the body (the hormones, organs, nerves, tissues, e.t.c) said it in clear terms in 1Cor.6:13 , “Now, the body is not for fornication”. Anyone who chooses to use the body for fornication must know that he/ she is working directly against God’s plan and there would definitely be a consequence either now or at old age! There is a spiritual bonding, a supernatural process that takes place in a lady’s heart to the first guy that enters in to her especially at that particular time when the hymen breaks.

There is no covenant without blood: this is why the membrane contains enough of it. As a matter of fact, what happens the first time a lady has sex is not just sex but an immersion and a bathing of the man with her hymen blood to initiate a covenant that is highly recognized in the spirit realm of both light and darkness! The first time this happens just marks her opening day covenant ceremony and each subsequent experience goes on to further refresh or strengthen that covenant or establish another version of it with another person. Many have washed useless boys with that hymen-blood. Many have struck irreversible covenants with men that have nothing to do with their destiny. Many have shared that hymen blood in sexual activity with demon-possessed men while some others have struck such precious covenants with candle sticks as they exercised sex with it. If only they knew,many girls who carelessly allowed themselves to be disvirgined in a bid to be among the so called “big girls” would never have done so.

The Bible says it in clear terms: “Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot (through sexual activity) is one with her (1Cor.6:16). This is why many girls are not yet married yet their spiritual composition is already shattered and imbalanced, because they have mingled their souls with that of different men. Dear Singles, know today that there is a definite proportion of your virtue that leaves you each time a man enters into you and when that man leaves you, he leaves with it. Just imagine how much of yourself would be lost each time a man enters into you without any properly signed marriage bond or contract.

Sex is a spiritual affair. A giving of yourself to another. All of these things have strong and terrible spiritual implications. A broken hymen opens you up to the spirit of the man that broke it, any other spirit whatsoever that may have mingled with that man’s spirit, those who have mingled theirs with him and the spirit of any other man that enters into you thereafter. The fun part is that pre-marital sex is not funny at all. What happens between the lines could be deadly and dangerous. The very first day a lady, or a man does that there will be spiritual transfer of destiny.

The sin of fornication gives demons and occultic people direct access into your God's given destiny. And it drives the Holy Spirit away from you, and your guardian angel will no longer fight for you, nor take your prayers to heaven.

So guys,zip up! Girls wise up!! It doesn't matter matters a lot. BIG THINGS COMES FROM LITTLE THINGS WE DO!!! I know a soul has been touched today.
Peace to you all. VIRGINITY AHEAD! STOP!! DON'T BREAK THAT GATE!!!

The more you learn the more you know.