LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP ANGLE

1....Maturity is when you accept other people the way they are and their level of maturity.

2....Maturity is when you understand that your ideas are not always the best.

3....Maturity is when you learn to let go even if it pains.

4...Maturity is when you are able to drop expectations from a relationship and give for giving sake.

5....Maturity is when you understand whatever you do, you do for your own peace.

6....Maturity is when you stop proving to the world how intelligent you are.

7....Maturity is when you stop comparing yourself with others because life is not a competition.

8....Maturity is when you understand that you can't and shouldn't always get what you want every time.

9....Maturity is when you are content and satisfied with your life and yet aspiring to be better everyday..

10....Maturity is when someone hurts you and you understand his/her attitude and stay clear than trying to hurt them back.

11....Maturity is when you start thinking of the good you can do to other people and not just yourself.

12....Maturity is when you know you can't please everyone.

13....Maturity is when you see things in different perspectives far beyond the way they are.

14....Maturity is when you love people more and judge them less.

15....Maturity is Responsibility

16....Maturity is Love

17....Maturity is the application of wisdom and knowledge

18....Maturity is when you accept that your accomplishment, failures, destiny, reputations and almost everything about your life depends on the choice you make and not pointing fingers on others. When you are able to make a decision and stand to bear the consequences of your actions.

19....Maturity is when you stand on the word of Love and not on the words people say about your relationship or spouse.

20....Maturity is knowing God, serving him with all that you've got and pursuing his kingdom no matter what people think or say.......

Since the husband don't want another man (a male doctor) to see his wife's body, he should have taken her to one of those 'mama' who delivers women at home and be ready for any fall out. Maybe the doctor should have closed his eyes while taking the delivery. Sigh!
Police have arrested a man after he shot a male doctor shortly after he helped deliver his wife’s baby.

The husband was angry that the hospital had allowed a male doctor to attend to his wife during birth.
The crazy husband is believed to have wanted a female doctor to deliver the baby and was upset that the male doctor identified as Muhannad al-Zabn, would have seen his wife without clothes.

The baby was born in April at King Fahad Medical City in Saudi city of Riyadh, according to Gulf News. But after the birth, the man reportedly travelled to the hospital and contacted Dr al-Zabn for a quick chat.

The man said he wanted to thank Dr al-Zabn for delivering his wife's baby without any major complications. After meeting in the hospital's garden, the man reportedly pulled out a handgun and shot Dr al-Zabn.


Following the attack, the father ran from the scene but was later tracked down and arrested by Saudi police.

Another rape Technique in Town. Ladies pls be careful.

A woman was taken by 5 men, who according to hospital and police report was raped by a gang before being dumped at a bus
station!

Though she was unable to remember the events of the previous evening, tests conducted revealed that she had been raped repeatedly.

There was a trace of Rohypnol in her blood.

Rohypnol, is presently being used as a date rape drug.

It is actually a small sterilization pill which is now being used by rapists to drug their targets at parties.

The drug makes the mind of the target (would be victim) go blank so that she does not remember anything that transpired and worse still, the drug sterilizes the victim so that she doesn't conceive from the rape and the rapist need not worry about having his identity revealed later by a paternity test.

The real bad news is that the drug's side effects ARE NOT TEMPORARY, they are
PERMANENT.

Any female that takes it WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO CONCEIVE.

The drug is
administered by dropping it into the target's drink.

The girl wouldn't remember a thing the next morning, nothing at all that had taken place the night before will she remember.

Rohypnol, dissolves rapidly and easily in drinks, leaving no taste and no change in color which makes it impossible to detect.

These weasels can get this drug from anyone who is in the vet school or any medical  university.

It's that easy and Rohypnol is about to break out big on campuses everywhere.

Believe it or not, there are even sites on the internet telling people how to use it.

Girls, please be careful when you're out, especially on a date, don't leave your drink unattended.

(Buy your own drinks, ensure bottles or cans received are unopened or sealed; don't even taste someone else's drink).

There has already been a report in Nigeria of girls' drinks being spiked by Rohypnol.

For guys - Please inform all your female family members, relatives and friends.

Remember you also have sisters or might one day have a daughter(s).

Important News are meant to be passed on, please don't keep or ignore.

This was sent to me and I feel I should pass it on so that we are better equipped to protect our loved ones.

Please share to protect and save lives.
🚫PLS GIRLS TRUST NO ONE.

I’ve learned-
that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I’ve learned-
that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I’ve learned-
that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I’ve learned-
that it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.

I’ve learned-
that you should never ruin an apology with an excuse.

I’ve learned-
that you shouldn’t compare yourself to the best others can do.

I’ve learned-
that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I’ve learned-
that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I’ve learned-
that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I’ve learned-
that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I’ve learned-
that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones to help you get back up.

I’ve learned-
that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

I’ve learned-
that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I’ve learned-
that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

I’ve learned-
that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.

I’ve learned-
that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you are to learn to forgive yourself.

I’ve learned-
that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I’ve learned-
that a rich person is not the one who has the most, but is one who needs the least.

I’ve learned-
that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.

I’ve learned-
that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I’ve learned-
that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I’ve learned-
that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings, and standing up for what you believe.

I’ve learned-
that people will forget what you said, and people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNT IN LIFE?

It is very important we understand that there is a great difference between being single and married. From research we have found out that the nature/character of a married man/woman ought to be different from that of a bachelor/spinster. 

We encourage you to patiently go through the list below as this will give us an understanding of some of the traits of singlehood  having adverse effect on marriages.

1. Don’t get married if you are worried about following a man’s lead.

2. Don’t get married if you always have to be right in an argument.

3. Don’t get married if you have to always be in control.

4. Don’t get married if you are protective over your stuff or your money.

5. Don’t get married if you don’t want someone else telling you what to do.

6. Don’t get married if you are always talking about how you “got this” by yourself.

7. Don’t get married if you are waiting on him to mess up.

8. Don’t get married if you plan to keep wearing your independent badge of honour after you’ve taken off your wedding dress.

Note: The traits are not limited to these. 
Source: information Nigeria

In case you’re in doubt, here are 26 things a woman does when she loves you, besides just saying the words

1. When she’s squeezing your hand.

2. When she just looks at you and doesn’t say anything at all.

3. When she invents a million silly pet names for you.

4. When she likes all of your posts.

5. When she tries to win over your friends.

6. When she isn’t scared to cry in front of you.

7. When she goes out of her comfort zone to try something you love.

8. When she texts you to tell you about her lunch.

9. When she sends you a makeup-free selfie.

10. When she cooks for you.

11. When she rolls her eyes at you.

12. When she loses her temper.

13. When she reaches out to you when you sob in her presence.

14. When she tugs your ear lobes.

16. When she misses you like crazy.

17. When she asks you for what she needs.

18. When she trusts you with her heart.

19. When she expects you to tell her the truth.

20. When she farts in front of you AND jokes about it.

21. When she gives you a shelf in the bathroom.

22. When she reminds you to take your medicine.

23. When she runs out of things to say and doesn’t force the conversation.

24. When she watches you get dressed in the morning with shining eyes.

25. When she wraps her arms around you and makes you swear that you will never let her go.

And I add,
26. She prays for your safety and prosperity.

Source: information Nigeria

1. The Encouragers  - even in discouraging situations of life, these people keep you going with encouraging words; MAY YOU MEET THEM.

2. The hand lifters- They are those whose hands are strong enough to hold yours up when you are weak; MAY YOU MEET THEM.

3. Destiny Helpers- They provide shoulders upon which you ride to fulfilling your dream and destiny; MAY YOU MEET THEM.

4. The Givers- these ones will give of their time, talent, and treasure to you in your hour of need; MAY YOU MEET THEM.

5. The Receivers- these ones are different from routine takers and serial beggars. You can’t be blessed if you don’t give, and you can’t give if there is no one to receive. Not all lands bring forth fruits, and not all hands that receive command blessings. You need those whose receiving hands will trigger abundant blessings unto you; MAY YOU MEET THEM.

6. The Prayer Conquerors- You need more than prayer warriors IN 2016. Many Prayer warriors pray from their heads only; Prayer conquerors pray from their heart and conquer; MAY YOU MEET THEM.

7. The Recommenders- these are the ones who mention your name in quarters where your skills and talents will be celebrated; MAY YOU MEET THEM.

8. The Correctors- these are the ones who honestly tell you when you are wrong; they prevent you from digging a grave of mistakes that may bury your destiny; MAY YOU MEET THEM.

9. The Committed- whether things are up or down, these ones are standing with you; MAY YOU MEET THEM.

10. The Loyal- they work with you with all of their hearts to make things work in your life; MAY YOU MEET THEM.

11. The Truth-Tellers- they will not call night day, and day night; MAY YOU MEET THEM.

12. The Altruists- these ones believe that life is not just about them, it is about you too; MAY YOU MEET THEM.

13. The Reliable- You can count on them when it counts most; MAY YOU MEET THEM.

14. The Contented- these ones are not greedy, they are satisfied with whatever they get from you and they bless you from their heart for it; MAY YOU MEET THEM.

15. Lovers of God & Godly Life- these ones are always connected to God; MAY YOU MEET THEM.

The doctor came upon this one farmer and to his surprise, everyone was very healthy. When the doctor asked what the farmer was doing that was different the wife replied that she had placed an unpeeled onion in a dish in the rooms of the home, (probably only two rooms back then). The doctor couldn't believe it and asked if he could have one of the onions and place it under the microscope. She gave him one and when he did this, he did find the flu virus in the onion. It obviously absorbed the bacteria, therefore, keeping the family healthy.

Now there is a P. S. to this for I sent it to a friend in Oregon who regularly contributes material to me on health issues. She replied with this most interesting experience about onions:

Thanks for the reminder. I don't know about the farmer's story...but, I do know that I contacted pneumonia, and, needless to say, I was very ill... I came across an article that said to cut both ends off an onion put it into an empty jar, and place the jar next to the sick patient at night. It said the onion would be black in the morning from the germs. ..sure enough it happened just like that...the onion was a mess and I began to feel better.

This is the other note.

Lots of times when we have stomach problems we don't know what to blame. Maybe it's the onions that are to blame. Onions ABSORB BACTERIA is the reason they are so good at preventing us from getting colds and flu and is the very reason we should NOT eat an onion that has been sitting for a time after it has been cut open.

LEFT OVER ONIONS ARE POISONOUS
when food poisoning is reported, the first thing the officials look for is when the 'victim' last ate ONIONS and where those onions came from (in the potato salad?). It's probably the ONIONS, and if not the onions, it's the POTATOES.

Onions are a huge magnet for bacteria, especially uncooked onions. You should never plan to keep a portion of a sliced onion. It's not even safe if you put it in a zip-lock bag and put it in your refrigerator.

It's already contaminated enough just by being cut open and out for a bit, that it can be a danger to you (and doubly watch out for those onions you put in your hotdogs at the baseball park!). If you take the leftover onion and cook it like crazy you'll probably be okay, but if you slice that leftover onion and put on your sandwich, you're asking for trouble. Both the onions and the moist potato in a potato salad, will attract and grow bacteria faster than any commercial mayonnaise will even begin to break down.

Also, dogs should never eat onions. Their stomachs cannot metabolize onions.

PLEASE REMEMBER IT IS DANGEROUS TO CUT AN ONION AND TRY TO SAVE IT TO COOK WITH THE NEXT DAY, IT BECOMES HIGHLY POISONOUSFOR EVEN A SINGLE NIGHT - AS IT CREATES TOXIC BACTERIA WHICH CAUSES ADVERSE STOMACH INFECTIONS BECAUSE OF EXCESS BILE SECRETIONS AND EVEN FOOD POISONING.

Please pass this to all the people whom you love and care about.

An engineer in a car manufacturing company designs a world class car. The owner is impressed with the outcome and praised him a lot.

While trying to bring out the car from the manufacturing area to the office they realised that the car is few inches taller than the entrance.

The engineer felt bad that he didn't notice this one before creating the car. The owner was amazed on how to take it outside of the manufacturing area.

The painter said that they can bring out the car and there will be few scratches on top of the car that he will do the tinkering later on.

The engineer said that they can break the entrance and after taking the car out, they can cement it.

The owner was not convinced with any ideas and felt like it is a bad sign to break or scratch.

The watchman was watching all these drama and slowly approached the owner. He wanted to give an idea if they have no problem.

They thought what this guy would tell them that the experts could not give.

The watchman said that the car is only few inches taller than the entrance so if they release the air in the tyre, the height of the car will be adjusted and can be easily taken out.

Everyone there were surprised and clapped their hands for him.

Don't approach problems only from the expert point of view. There is always a layman point that may provide needed solution...
Always listen to everyone's point of view before judging them. Never ask people to shut up!

Moral: Deflate your ego in order to get out of the container so that the world can appreciate your usefulness.

In this modern day, housemaids have become part of many family life and a whole lots of women are making serious mistakes the way they handle them. Some are losing their marriages because of this little mistakes. Remember the mistake of Sarah in the Bible.

You need to get divine wisdom to handle them. This is what I have put together as rules for handling housemaids:

RULE 1: NO MEAT FOR THE HUNTER
Never employ an house maid if you cannot really trust your husband with opposite sex or if he has history of sexual infidelity. An adult house keeper will be better who will come to your house in the morning and go in the night. Please don't employ your ‘Hagar’, dear sister Sarah.

RULE 2: BEAUTY CONTEST
Never employ a housemaid that is more beautiful than you. She may turn out to be your nemesis and take your husband from you. Don't employ somebody that will engage you in a beauty contest.

RULE 3: BE IN CHARGE
Never employ house maid you cannot control. Two drivers should not be in the same car.

RULE 4: NO NEED, NO MAID
Please my sister, don't go for a housemaid if you don't really need one. Buckle up and do your work. The problem of maids at times is bigger than the support they give at home. Won't it be better to take your baby to crèche than leave him or her with a maid that will man-handle the baby and even snatch your husband? Hello men, please help your wife at home to raise your children. If you do it together, there may not be the need for a maid. Sir, supporting your wife at home will not remove "MR" from your name, it only makes you a real man.

RULE 5: TIME TO FIRE
If your housemaid suddenly becomes uncontrollable, stubborn and disobedient to you, while your husband sees nothing wrong in it, fighting or even beating you because of the girl.

Be very observant. There is something fishy under your roof. If you lose control of your maid she must gooooo!

RULE 6: COVER-UP
Don’t ever allow your house maid to wear see-through and s*xy dresses in your house. Somebody else (your husband) may begin to see through her in your absence.

RULE 7: FULLY KITTED
Don't ever permit your maid to be tying towel around the house for hours just because she wants to go and take her bath. It is tempting. Help your husband. Don't ever allow this. In fact, your blood sister must not even be permitted to do so. Any lady in your house must always be well dressed if they are not in their room. No spaghetti, tying of wrapper without blouse. Some girls are so careless that they wear pants and bras around the house. Hey! Sister, the house is yours not theirs. Don't permit them to destroy it. Every lady around you must be fully dressed in your house. If they must wear night dresses it must be in their rooms. Protect the territorial integrity of your home. Failure to do this is one major mistake most wives do make at home. Don't lose your husband to strange women that are close to you.

RULE 8: AVOID MATURE TROUBLE
Don't employ a fully grown up, developed, breasted housemaid. She may become a fully grown up and developed trouble. DON'T permit it.

RULE 9: NO ROOM, NO MAID
Never employ a maid if you don't have a separate room where you are going to put her. Making your maid to sleep in the sitting room can bring doom into that home, as she sleeps carelessly, enticing your husband who may accidentally see her as she sleeps and begins to pursue her.

RULE 10: NO BOY, IF GIRLS
Don't ever employ a houseboy if you have only girls as children. Experience has shown that a whole lot of little girls are being deflowered by their mother’s house help. Get female a house help, if you have only girls.

RULE 11: NO GIRL, IF BOYS
Likewise, if all your kids are male, don't employ a female house maid. There are lots of cases where house maids s*xually molest the boys of their madams. Rather, get a houseboy.

RULE 12: NO YOU IN HER
Don't give your old dresses that your husband likes on you to your maid, lest your husband begins to see you in her. Those clothes that look beautiful and maybe sexy on you that made your husband to fall for you several times SHOULD NEVER be given to your maid. Don't make your husband feel that there is no difference between the two of you and get carried away as he sees you in her.

RULE 13: NO HARSH TREATMENT
A young housemaid seduced her madam’s husband to bed and nearly took over the house. When she was interrogated; she said, that is her own way of dealing with her madam who had been so cruel to her.

Another maid ran into the house of one of their neighbours just to escape the man of the house who insisted on sleeping with her. She told the neighbour what happened and that she will never do that kind of thing with “Oga” because madam has been so good to her. She later left that house voluntarily losing her job. She said, “I will never hurt that good woman.”

What is the difference between the two stories? One woman was cruel and lost her husband and another one was good and saved her marriage.

Wives are fond of being so cruel and harsh to their maids. Most of the time they do treat them with disdain, shouting on them, punishing them, beating them and treating them without honour.

If you must get a maid, learn to treat her with honour. A maid you treat badly has many ways of fighting back. One of them is punishing your children or molesting them sexually behind you. The maid you maltreated can also decide to seduce your husband to bed. In extreme cases, maids are known to have poisoned the family of their employers.

By all means, try to be good to your maid. You may be doing yourself a great favour. Always remember that you are only privileged to be the wife in that house.

RULE 14: TRAVEL LESS
Avoid constant travelling, leaving your husband and children at the mercy of your maid. You may not meet your home the way you left it.

Must you attend all the parties? Must you be on the road every weekend? Must you move from London to Dubai on your way to Madrid in the name of business meeting? I think you should choose between becoming a successful family woman and the most popular, famous, known face in town and the richest.

If you travel constantly, I can assure you that you can become a victim of house maid wickedness.

RULE 15: TREAT HER WELL
Treat your maid always the same way you treat your children. Remember, maids have parents too. They are only unfortunate, and your children could have been in her shoe if not for the mercy of God.

Let her eat the same food with your children, and eat on the same table. When you buy clothes for your children, buy for your maids too. It will be totally wrong for your maid to be wearing rags when your children dress like princes and princesses. By all means treat her well. See it as a privilege to sow seeds into the lives of others. Start from your maid.

RULE 16: CHILDREN RESPECT
Never allow your children to disrespect her. Let them respect her. She is older than them. Don't tell them she is just an house girl. Let them see her as their sister and respect her like that.

RULE 17: KITCHEN OWNER
Don't surrender your kitchen to your maid. She should never be the one cooking your husband’s food or serving him. Men always fall in love with the hands that cook and serve their food. If she can successfully replace you in the kitchen, your husband may not see the reason why she cannot replace you in the bedroom.

RULE 18: BE UNPREDICTABLE
Get home at times when your maid least expects you. Cut short your journey at times to arrive a day earlier than planned. Just be unpredictable. Don't allow your maid to be able to predict you accurately. Your discovery may shock you.

RULE 19: WATCH OUT FOR CLUES
Occasionally, check the bags and the room of your maid. This may give you room to know what is going on in her life. You will be able to detect if she is stealing your money, food, properties etc. You may even see male or female condom or contraceptive in her bag. That will give you a signal to question the use and know who uses it with her. “Who is that person?” You should probe further to unveil the whole truth.

RULE 20: ASK QUESTIONS
Don't be afraid to ask questions. Probe your maid about her background, parents, experiences, plans, fears etc. If you make her comfortable with you, she will open up and you will be able to know who you are dealing with.

Most of the times our maids know everything about us but we know nothing about them. At times we don't even know their real name. What a mistake!

Moreover, ask questions from your children because they spend more time with the maid. They may have many things to tell you if you are humble enough to ask questions.

RULE 21: NO IDLE TIME
Find a way of keeping your maid busy when you are not at home. Remember that idle hands are the workshops of the devil. Send her to a local school around you or make her to learn a vocation within the period you and the children will not be at home. If you leave her at home alone doing nothing, boys around can come and have their share of her in your house and she will be using your food to feed them. Some of them can even come as armed robbers at night. Some husbands are even known to sneak back home to go and meet the “small madam” who is idle and available at home and may also be willing.

RULE 22: DO BACKGROUND CHECKS
Check the state of health of your maid. Please let her go for HIV test. I know you must have heard the story of a maid who infected the little children of her madam by sleeping with the innocent children. Don’t overlook this. You may also need to check if there is any disease in her body that can infect your family.

RULE 23: GIVE YOUR CHILDREN SOUND S*X EDUCATION
Tell your children not to allow anybody to touch their PRIVATE PARTS. Please list the private parts for them to include: their male or female genitals, buttocks and anus. Let them touch the place as they mention them by names. Tell them also never to touch anybody's private parts or put it in their mouth. They should all be well tutored to know that if anybody touches their private parts or if anybody asks them to touch somebody's private parts or put it in their mouth, they should tell mummy or daddy immediately.

This is the basic principle of sex education. Please don't fail to teach your children lest you regret you did not do it.

RULE 24: BE VIGILANT
Don't sleep with both eyes closed. Most wives never discovered that their husbands were sleeping with their maid until the maid became pregnant. In a particular case, the woman of the house did not even know until the pregnancy was three months old. It was her neighbour that later called her attention to it. She said she never knew they were sleeping together, despite the fact that they have been sleeping together for about two years and the man even aborted a pregnancy for her before the present one. Maybe they would have aborted this, if not for the fact that the man travelled abroad.

Be vigilant. Open your eyes when you are bathing your children. Check them very well. Ask questions.

If you notice any strange behaviour in your children, maid, or your husband, if there is any strange hatred, affinity, or hostility between your maid and your children or husband, try to know the reason. The word is, be vigilant.

RULE 25: KNOW THE TIME TO FIRE
Most women do know the time to hire housemaids but ignorant of time to fire. No matter how useful a maid is to you, let her go if:

- She becomes uncontrollable to you.
 - Becomes too close to your husband.
 - Begins to disrespect your husband. There may be secrets that she and your husband cannot reveal to you.
 - She is very lazy. If she cannot do what you employed her for, why keep her?
 - You caught her in fornication or other s*xual immorality. Let her go before she infects your children and husband.
 - She is fetish and demonic.
 - You caught her in a compromising situation with your husband.
 - You feel she is trying to seduce your husband.
 - Your husband suddenly says you should send her packing without you seeing a reason for that. You better obey. He may have reasons he should never tell you, but that decision will be the best for you on the long run. If you insist, you may regret it later.
 - She has grown to become a very beautiful lady. She was very young when she got to you but now she is a grown up girl, with fully developed pointed breast and tantalizing back side. She may be very good, but let her go at this stage lest you regret it. Give her, “her retirement benefits”, as she may grow up to be more beautiful than you are now and make your husband to go with her. That was the mistake Sarah made and modern women are still making it. Please don't repeat it.

RULE 26: HAVE A GREEN BED
Build a green bed in your marriage. Don't build a yellow or red bed. Yellow bed means struggle in your bedroom where your husband has to beg you for sex or even bribe you for it.
Red bed is when there is no sex in the marriage. Both yellow and red beds can give room for the housemaid who is more available than you to take over from you.

Please, build a green bed. Satisfy your husband. It is the wisdom you need to keep your home.

Bukari and his wife don't sit next to each other during Church services.

Even when going to Church services, they go in different vehicles; and when they travel in the same car, it is usually a very quiet and uncomfortable ride.

Bukari sat at his usual spot in the Church service; the fourth line on the far left row. His wife sat on the center row.

The Pastor took to the podium.

"Husbands, stop wasting your time praying" the Pastor began.

The congregants got alarmed. No one expects to hear a pastor saying prayer is a waste of time.

"I am not here to discourage you to pray. I am here to encourage you to pray right.

Husbands, stop wasting your time praying if you are not treating your wife well.

The Word says that when you treat your wife badly, it hinders your prayers. Men, you claim to be prayerful.

You come to church driving your expensive cars, giving your offertory and tithes, active in Church, some of you are Church leaders; but how are you treating your wife?

You may look good to us Church members, but it is your wife and children that know who you truly are" said the Pastor.

Bukari turned to face his wife. She looked at him. Bukari could see her eyes.

Her left eye swollen from the blow he gave her last week when she confronted him about his alcoholism, pornography use and mischievous behavior.

People couldn't tell she had a black eye because of the make up she had on, so well done.

The Pastor continued, "People have perfected the art of cover up. Here in Church, so many are hurting but you wouldn't know.

People come here wearing their nice clothes, shiny smiles, they are active in ministry but hurting a lot in their marriage.

We have become numb and plastic, brushing things under the carpet. But today we shall heal; we shall address those wounds we hide"

The Pastor cleared his throat and continued, "Many of those who are hurting their spouse are using the church to hide.

They think that because they give offertory and tithe, because they make public prayers, because they stand in front to read the Word or because they hold a Church leadership position that they are right with God. God is interested in what you do in your marriage and in your family.

Your first ministry is your home. Stop trying to blackmail God with your service in Church yet you are mean and hurtful towards your spouse"

Many of the members of the congregation got restless and unsettled.

The Pastor continued, "Many of those who are being hurt by their spouse hide their pain and want to project an image that all is well to validate that they are blessed and in control.

Some of you are active in Church to run away from the pain in your marriage"

The congregation was silent. Some straightening their ties, others fidgeting with their Bibles, adjusting their sitting position.

This pastor was preaching truth and it was uncomfortable.

The Pastor continued, "The husbands are not the only ones guilty. Wives, don't you know the Word says when your husband found you he found good and you bring favour?

Then why are you the source of your husband's headache and stress? Have you been so toxic that you have turned your prayerful husband into a prayerless one?

Do you make him regret marrying you because you bring more complications than he had before marrying you?

How you treat your husband can be a stumbling block in his walk with God or an environment that encourages growth.

Many of you married your husband primarily because of his relationship with God, why are you now destroying his relationship with God instead of celebrating and nurturing it?

Why are you being a burden to your husband emotionally, spiritually, socially, sexually and financially instead of being one who brings favour?"

Bukari's wife looked at Bukari. Bukari looked at her, she looked away.
 
The Pastor paused to drink his glass of water.

The Pastor continued, "When I am thirsty, I drink a glass of water.

When your spouse gets thirsty, will you allow God to use you to bless your spouse?

You've been told many sermons that focus on you as an individual, that God will make you prosper as an individual.

I am here to tell you your blessings are tied to people, you are blessed to be a blessing to others. Our God is not an individualistic God.

Your blessing is tied to your marriage, your family. It's not about you, you, you; it is about Jesus and Jesus is about love.

What good is it to prosper and be successful when you have no love? It is all vanity.

God cares about your family, how you treat your spouse and children"

Silence.

"Yes, we pray. But what kind of prayers does your spouse pray because of you?

When your spouse prays, is it largely to cry to God because of the hurt you bring?

Is it to plead with God to change you from the monster you've become?

Is it to plead for grace to deal with how difficult you are? Or is to give thanks for you?"

Silence.

"Are you really prayerful? Do you really value prayer?

Then why is it that many of you find it easy to come to us pastors for us to pray with you as an individual, you find it is easy to pray in public in a Church service or Bible study, but find it so hard to pray with your spouse?

Isn't that telling of what is going on in your marriage? Don't you know that the more you pray with your spouse the stronger your marriage will be?

But how can you find it easy to pray with a spouse you hurt or who hurts you?"

The Pastor paused and looked at the congregation. Eyes staring at him.

"I challenge you. I challenge you to pray with your spouse and to treat your spouse well.

Husbands, you are the head of the home. I challenge you to stand up and go to where your wife is and pray with her as a start of a more prayerful chapter in your marriage.

Don't do it because I asked you to but because you want to. Your choice"

One by one, the husbands present stood up.

Bukari stood up too.

Bukari walked to where his wife was.

The face of Bukari's wife overwhelmed with love, she looked on as her husband walked to her.

She almost stood up but he gave hand gestures at her to stay seated.

Bukari reached where she sat. Their eyes met.

Bukari knelt down. He stared at her then kissed her swollen left eye.

"I am sorry" he said.

"Can I pray with you?" He asked.

She got up from her seat and knelt down too.

There, on the floor as the Church service was still ongoing, husbands prayed with their wives.

Bukari prayed kneeling with his wife.

They prayed for forgiveness, for thanksgiving, for love, for renewal, for peace, for direction; for their marriage.

Marriages were healed.

If You have been blessed by this marriage please share. You might just be saving a marriage.

If you knew that fifteen minutes a day reading a book would totally revolutionize your life, wouldn’t you make it a priority? In Joshua 1, Moses tells young Joshua that nothing is more important than spending time in Scripture.

While some view the Bible as simply a big, confusing book, Scripture tells us it is the living Word of God. In this way, the reason spending time reading it matters is that it allows us to hear his voice!

Luke 6:45 (NLT): A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What you say flows from what is in your heart.

Spending time with Jesus deposits the things of God into your heart and life.

Today we’ll read the beginning of the Gospel of John, which starts with a beautiful description of Jesus as the Word. In other words, Jesus is the full expression of God’s heart, and the Bible is how we learn and pray for God’s heart in us. When we spend time in God’s Word, we are spending time with Jesus and will become more like Him.

Start your day with fifteen minutes in God’s Word and watch the change begin.

John 1:1-5 Joshua 1:8

It will clean the toxins from the body and will help in improving the oral and overall health. Also, it is very effective for whitening the teeth and detoxifying the teeth and gums at the same time.

For this technique we recommend to use high quality vegetable oil.
Most of the people who used this technique claim that it helps in treating arthritis, asthma, infections, headaches, hormonal imbalance and skin conditions.

You may find it a bit difficult at first, but you`ll get used to it after a few minutes. Repeat the procedure regularly and you will have whiter and brighter teeth after just one week.

How to perform the technique?
Oil pulling is a very simple technique. All you need to do is put a couple of teaspoons of vegetable oil (coconut, sesame, olive oil) in your mouth and swish it around for about 20 minutes. Then, spit it out and wash your mouth with water. For best results, do the procedure in the morning on an empty stomach, or in the evening before going to bed

Directions:

1. Put 1-2 teaspoons of the chosen oil into the mouth.
2. Swish for 20 minutes. The timing is important because this period of 20 minutes is long enough to break through plaque and bacteria.
3. The oil will get thicker and milky and it should be creamy-white when spit out.
4. Spit oil into the trash can instead into the sink. Also, do not swallow the oil because it is full of bacteria, toxins and pus that are not in the mouth anymore.
5. Rinse well with lukewarm water.
6. Finally, brush well.
7. You may find it difficult at the beginning to keep a tablespoon of oil in your mouth, but you will get used to it after the first few minutes.
8. Your mouth will be cleaner and fresher after every oil pulling. After a week, your smile will be visibly whiter and brighter.

Source: Pure9jagist

I Went to an e-bank hall few months ago. As I was about entering the hall, a lady ran ahead of me and pushed me away, so she could quickly join the long queue before I will get to the queue. I did not say anything. She felt I will stay at her back, but I was actually not there to withdraw, I came to deposit.

So I walked to the deposit machine. Lo and behold, there was not a single person on the queue, as I was the only one there.

When I had finished depositing money and was about leaving the hall, the same lady came from her long queue and apologized to me for pushing me away the other time. With sorry smile on her face; she said 'I am sorry sir for pushing you away, I thought you were coming to the queue', I just smiled and told her not to bother, that's not a big deal.

But since then, the lesson in this story keeps coming to my mind, and I decided to share it for us all to learn from.

Friends, who are you 'pushing' away and trying to out run in the race of destiny, relationship, business, ministry, career, etc?

You think you are going to the same 'queue' (destination), unknowing to you that, though your path may look alike, but your destinations are different!

How many people have had to say 'sorry' to those they pushed aside, pushed away, push down when they finally realised that that person was not actually going to the 'withdrawal machine' they were running to.

Are you reading this and you are pushing people away here and there by slandering them, hindering their progress, blocking their promotion, spoiling their good names through lies and rumour all in a bid to 'get there' before them.

I challenge you today, to take it easy. You might not be going to the same destination. It may surprise you later that with all your pushing away, they may still leave you on the 'queue' of destiny because success is not a function of who arrived first... .

Finally, are you reading this and you can feel people in your office, ministry, business, etc pushing you away so that they can get ahead of you?.

Don't worry, God will use your case to prove to them that, 'it is not of him that runeth or willeth, but of the Lord that showeth mercy......( Romans 9:16).

He will show you mercy and give you an  overtaking speed that those who are pushing you here and there will later come to tell you they are sorry.

Please, don't push anybody you meet on the same path of life, because you might not be going to the same 'machine'  (destination).

A masterpiece!

Hello friends, i think this is a great piece that does a great deal of justice to the current moral quagmire our world has gotten herself into..

(The Six stages of deception)

Deception is a process by which wrong becomes right, and right becomes wrong. It’s a complete paradigm shift of opinions, standards and morals that is achieved softly, subtly and often takes a generation to entrench into society.

If you want to know what I am talking about, find out your mother’s views on things like sexuality and marriage and compare them with yours. The contrast in opinions does not necessarily prove that she is old and antiquated; it may instead prove that you have been deceived.

There are six stages of deception.

● The shocker
● The outrage
● The discussion
● Tolerance
● Acceptance
● Veneration

If I wanted to popularize the most unimaginable thing in our society, say like bestiality (the practice of having sex with animals), I would follow these steps.

I would select a forerunner to drop the shocking message on an unsuspecting public. “We should start having sex with animals,” he would announce on radio, TV or in a newspaper.

That is the shocker; the bombshell, so to speak. It would inevitably be followed by outrage. The forerunner is abused and demonized by the bewildered public. Every respected leader in society comes out to slam the lamentable reprobate who dared suggest something so obnoxious.

The forerunner defiantly defends the practice. His critics come out even more scathing. But the forerunner knows exactly what he is doing. He is setting an agenda. Many people don’t understand the effect of continuous exposure on the human mind.

I will give an example most of you will understand. If you ask a girl out and she is not interested in you, the best thing she can do for herself is stay away from you or your words. If she continues listening to you, what was initially unthinkable becomes worth a consideration, then acceptable. Many ladies have fallen for guys they swore never to date just because they didn’t understand the law of continuous exposure.

Once the bestiality message reaches the third stage; discussion, the forerunner has done his job. At this stage there is a big debate over bestiality; with most people still slamming it, not knowing that they are falling into a trap.

I know for a fact that homosexual groups abroad were giving money to people fighting homosexuality in Uganda. Then they would also fund those pushing for it. Initially it didn’t make sense. Until I learnt how deception works. What they wanted was to keep the subject of homosexuality in public debate. They know exactly what they were doing. The more people are exposed to it through discussion, the more it becomes less obnoxious in their minds.

That leads to the next stage: Tolerance. At this stage people say: “I am not going to have sex with animals, but if someone chooses to do it, shauri yake (that’s his problem). Others will say: “Who cares what people do behind closed doors?”I have heard these statements being made by people who clearly don’t understand what they are up against. This is the stage at which science kicks in to ‘prove’ that some people are born with an inherent attraction towards animals and they cannot help themselves.

Consequently, bestiality is included in the UN Human Rights Charter and activists are given a new pursuit. Economic and travel sanctions are used to twist the arms of nations that still forbid it.

Then we start hearing phrases like: “We cannot tell people whom they should love.”

The main purpose of this stage is to ensure that bestiality is legally accepted.

The next two steps are aimed at entrenching it at a social level.

The penultimate stage is Acceptance. At this stage bestiality becomes a conventional alternative way of living. All the outrage has since dissipated. This is the stage at which those still opposed to it are called bestiaphobic (the word will be coined) and they are considered antiquated, old-fashioned, intolerant, dogmatic, religious zealots, bigots…. you’ve heard all those words.

This is the stage at which there are bestiality rights parades in major cities.

Then we are reminded that the same Holy Books that forbids bestiality also forbids eating pork, fornication, drinking etc. Then ‘intellectuals’ think, and use that to rubbish the Word of God, and make it look ridiculous.

The final step is Veneration. This is the stage at which the people who practice bestiality are praised. The liberalist media (which includes almost all international channels) subtly promotes them as ‘cool’, intelligent, exposed. That’s the stage at which celebrities ‘come out’ to reveal that they are ‘proud bestialists’.

Then bestiality begins to win fresh ‘converts’ everyday because many young people will do anything to be seen as ‘cool’ or to be associated with some Hollywood or football star.

That is how you corrupt a whole society.

That’s how previously unthinkable things like atheism and homosexuality and all other forms of sexual perversion have taken root in our society.

Unfortunately, in Uganda, homosexuality has reached Stage four (Tolerance). But in the West, it has gotten to the veneration stage.

You have probably heard of the black homo American footballer who “made history by becoming the first footballer to come out”. What’s historical about someone proclaiming their perversion?

So many other people are being lauded in the media for no other reason other than their homosexuality.

Your mother may not be outdated after all. You may be deceived.

If you found this enlightening, share it with as many people as possible. It might just save them from the soaring plague in our society

A friend of ours became very sick after drinking water left in a car overnight and she was ill for a couple of months.

No matter how many times you get this message, please send it on!!!!

Bottled water left in your car is very dangerous!

On the Ellen show, Sheryl Crow said that this is what caused her breast cancer.  It has been identified as the most common cause of the high levels of dioxin in breast cancer tissue..

Sheryl Crow's oncologist told her: women should not drink bottled water that has been left in a car.  The heat reacts with the chemicals in the plastic of the bottle which releases dioxin into the water. Dioxin is a toxin increasingly found in breast cancer tissue.

So please be careful and do not drink bottled water that has been left in a car.

Pass this on to all the women in your life. This information is the kind we need to know that just might save us!

Use a stainless steel cantee or a glass bottle instead of plastic!

LET EVERYONE KNOW PLEASE!

This information is also being circulated at Walter Reed Army Medical Center.
No plastic containers in microwaves.
No plastic water bottles in freezers.
No plastic wrap in microwaves.

Dioxin chemical causes cancer, especially breast cancer.

Dioxins are highly poisonous to cells in our bodies.

Don't freeze plastic bottles with water in them as this releases dioxins from the plastic.

Recently the Wellness Program Manager at Castle Hospital , was on a TV program to explain this health hazard.

He talked about dioxins and how bad they are for us. He said that we should not be heating food in the microwave using plastic containers......

This especially applies to foods that contain fat.

He said that the combination of fat, high heat and plastic releases dioxin into the food.

Instead, he recommends using glass, such as Pyrex or ceramic containers for heating food... You get the same result, but without the dioxin..

So, such things as TV dinners, instant soups, etc., should be removed from their containers and heated in something else.

Paper isn't bad but you don't know what is in the paper. It's safer to use tempered glass, such as Pyrex, etc.

He reminded us that a while ago some of the fast food restaurants moved away from the styrene foam containers to paper. The dioxin problem is one of the reasons....

Also, he pointed out that plastic wrap, such as Cling film, is just as dangerous when placed over foods to be cooked in the microwave.
As the food is nuked, the high heat causes poisonous toxins to actually melt out of the plastic wrap and drip into the food..

Cover food with a paper towel instead.

This is an article that should be sent to anyone important in your life.

Hello friends, Someone just sent this educative article to me. Please, do someone a favour by passing it on.
Thank you.

Cancer Update from Johns Hopkins:

1. Every person has cancer cells in the body.. These cancer cells do not show up in the standard tests until they have multiplied to a few billion. When doctors tell cancer patients that there are no more cancer cells in their bodies after treatment, it just means the tests are unable to detect the cancer cells because they have not reached the detectable size.

2. Cancer cells occur between 6 to more than 10 times in a
person's lifetime.

3. When the person's immune system is strong the cancer
cells will be destroyed and prevented from multiplying and forming tumors.

4. When a person has cancer it indicates the person has
nutritional deficiencies. These could be due to genetic,
but also to environmental, food and lifestyle factors.

5. To overcome the multiple nutritional deficiencies, changing diet to eat more adequately and healthy, 4-5 times/day and by including supplements will strengthen the immune system.

6. Chemotherapy involves poisoning the rapidly-growing
cancer cells and also destroys rapidly-growing healthy cells in the bone marrow, gastrointestinal tract etc., and can cause organ damage, like liver, kidneys, heart, lungs etc.
7. Radiation while destroying cancer cells also burns, scars and damages healthy cells, tissues and organs.

8. Initial treatment with chemotherapy and radiation will often reduce tumor size.
However prolonged use of chemotherapy and radiation do not result in more tumor destruction.

9. When the body has too much toxic burden from
chemotherapy and radiation the immune system is either
compromised or destroyed, hence the person can succumb to various kinds of infections and complications.

10. Chemotherapy and radiation can cause cancer cells to mutate and become resistant and difficult to destroy. Surgery can also cause cancer cells to spread to other sites.

11. An effective way to battle cancer is to starve the cancer
cells by not feeding it with the foods it needs to multiply.

CANCER CELLS FEED ON:

a. Sugar substitutes like NutraSweet, Equal, Spoonful, etc. are made with Aspartame and it is harmful. A better natural substitute would be Manuka honey or molasses, but only in very small amounts. Table salt has a chemical added to make it white in color Better alternative is Bragg's aminos or sea salt.

b. Milk causes the body to produce mucus, especially in the gastro-intestinal tract. Cancer feeds on mucus.. By cutting off milk and substituting with unsweetened soy milk cancer cells are being starved.

c. Cancer cells thrive in an acid environment. A meat-based diet is acidic. Meat also contains livestock antibiotics, growth hormones and parasites, which are all harmful, especially to people with cancer.

d.. A diet made of 80% fresh vegetables and juice, whole
grains, seeds, nuts and a little fruits help put the body into
an alkaline environment. About 20% can be from cooked food including beans. Fresh vegetable juices provide live enzymes that are easily absorbed and reach down to cellular levels within 15 minutes to nourish and enhance growth of healthy cells. To obtain live enzymes for building healthy cells try and drink fresh vegetable juice (most vegetables including bean sprouts) and eat some raw vegetables 2 or 3 times a day. Enzymes are destroyed at
temperatures of 104 degrees F (40 degrees C)..

e. Avoid coffee, tea, and chocolate, which have high
caffeine Green tea is a better alternative and has cancer
fighting properties. Water-best to drink purified water, or
filtered, to avoid known toxins and heavy metals in tap
water. Distilled water is acidic, avoid it.

12. Meat protein is difficult to digest and requires a lot of
digestive enzymes. Undigested meat remaining in the intestines becomes putrefied and leads to more toxic buildup.

13.. Cancer cell walls have a tough protein covering. By
refraining from meat it frees more enzymes to attack the protein walls of cancer cells and allows the
body's killer cells to destroy the cancer cells.

14. Some supplements build up the immune system
(IP6, Flor-ssence, Essiac, anti-oxidants, vitamins, minerals,
EFAs etc.) to enable the body's own killer cells to destroy cancer cells.. Other supplements like vitamin E are known to cause apoptosis, or programmed cell death, the body's normal method of disposing of damaged, unwanted, or unneeded cells.

15. Cancer is a disease of the mind, body, and spirit.

A proactive and positive spirit will help the cancer warrior
be a survivor. Anger, unforgiveness and bitterness put the body into a stressful and acidic environment. Learn to have a loving and forgiving spirit. Learn to relax and enjoy life.

16. Cancer cells cannot thrive in an oxygenated
environment. Exercising daily, and deep breathing help to
get more oxygen down to the cellular level. Oxygen therapy is another means employed to destroy cancer cells.


This is an article that should be sent to anyone important in your life...

A very informative article

A lot of people don't associate sex with God - they associate it with Satan as if sex is not holy.!! The bible is explicit when it comes to sex.Sex is holy within marriage,and there is no prescribed style.

Nowhere in the Bible does it say that the missionary position is the only sexual style.Not discussing sex in a relationship leads to divorce!!women who complained:my husband treats me as if I were his brother,I am tired of getting sex fortnightly,like a salary. You are a lucky one to be getting sex fortnightly,since some wives only get it on big days, like elections. Many husbands leave their wives to seek sexual pleasures in Hill brow.

Have you ever asked yourself what those women have that you don't. Wives have become very frigid and even sleep with their panties. If you're a married woman, you should sleep naked and let your bum touch your husband.

Today you find men going out of their way to get a glimpse of a vagina.They page through magazines and even go to lingerie departments in stores hoping to see what's hidden under panties because their wives hide it from them.

Marriage is about being free with your body in front of your partner. A woman should parade naked and do some modelling to tempt her husband. There are many married women who don't know how their husbands' penis look like. She only feels it when he enters her. They've never touched it, let alone seen it, because the husband switches off the lights before undressing.

A penis is a wife's toy - she is supposed to play with it. Couples should make out time for sex and stop complaining about being tired after a day's work. God created sex for procreation and also for pleasure. You can't marry and not have a good time in bed. WHO SAID YOU CAN ONLY HAVE SEX AT NIGHT? Why can't you drive home during lunch and have a quickie with your wife? We're all equal in sex - it's not just about a woman satisfying a man. You have to satisfy each other. Have you ever seen a woman who has been satisfied?

Have you noticed how she glows and becomes energetic?

May the Lord help us.This is the 'Whole Truth, Nothing But The Truth. Age has nothing to do with sex.The older you are the more you should enjoy it. Make sure your spouse reads this.
Also Send to all your married friends.

In most Singles and Married programs, you always hear the ministers Of God say "there are some people here who would have made it great in life but blood is crying against them, if you know you've shed blood especially abortion please come out". Then you see only ladies trooping out in shame, in tears and in remorse just to get saved.

Why only women? What about the men that impregnated them or sponsor the abortion or rejected the pregnancy? "men are not left out, men should always come out too.

Now I have this to say, guys, whenever you see women coming out, praying for grace, pleading for mercy on issues concerning abortion, my brother join them and pray too if you have approved abortion before! It's not only women that do abortion! Most of you men even sponsor or support abortion, some of you even force and push her to do that reasons being that you aren't ready to father a child. Why did you sleep with her when you know you are not ready to father a child? Do you think sex is free? So long as that lady commits abortion, that blood will also cry on your head because it's your sperm that formed in her. No woman can become pregnant herself.

You all should try and search yourself and if found guilty, ask for mercy because many destinies are being caged because of the sin of abortion. Many marriages are suffering because of this. But God's mercy is available.
Some men whose partner are believing God for children, please confess to your wife if you've aborted a pregnancy before and ask for mercy, and that womb will open. Most of you will allow your wives suffer what she doesn't know about.

I just felt burdened to say this. Abortion is a murder case. If you become pregnant out of wedlock, keep the pregnancy. Your innocent baby have the right to live. Give birth to your baby and take correction.

The safest way not to become pregnant before marriage is NOT TO HAVE SEX BEFORE YOUR WEDDING!
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God Bless You!

The majority of Proverbs 31 describes a virtuous woman who leads her home with
integrity, discipline and giftedness. This wife
and mother is a leader not because she tries
to be one, but because of who she is.

Her Assets
She is trustworthy (v.11)

She is a positive influence (v.12)

She is a hard worker v.13, 14, 19, 24-27)

She is a planner v.21, 22)

She is protective(v.27)

Her Achievements
She meets the needs of her home (v.15)

She invests for her household (v.16)

She keeps herself in shape (v.17)

She helps her husband become successful
(v.23)

Her Attitudes
Delightful (v.13)

Healthy (v.18)

Compassionate (v.20)

Unselfish (v.20)

Public (v.25)

Her Applause
From her family (v.28)

From her husband (v.28,29)

From God's Word (v.30)

From her works (v.31)

Proverbs 31: 29 and 30 says "Many
daughters have done well, but you excel
them all… a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised."

IF you want to win; then win someone's heart

IF you want to hide something; then hide others faults

IF you want to acquire something; then acquire knowledge

IF you want to give something; then give to charity

IF you want to say something; then say the truth

IF you want to show something; then show kindness

IF you want to leave something; then leave your pride

IF you want to count something; then count your blessings

IF you want to be happy; then make others smile

IF you want to share something; then share your knowledge...
                                               
One day a school teacher wrote on the board the following:

9×1=7
9×2=18
9×3=27
9×4=36
9×5=45
9×6=54
9×7=63
9×8=72
9×9=81
9×10=90

When she was done, she looked to the students and they were all laughing at her, because of the first equation which was wrong, and then the teacher said the following,

"I wrote that first one wrong on purpose, because I wanted you to learn something important. This was for you to know how the world out there will treat you. You can see that I wrote RIGHT 9 times, but none of you congratulated me for it; you all laughed and criticized me because of one wrong thing I did.

So this is the lesson...:
'The world will never appreciate the good you do a million times, but will criticize the one wrong thing you do... But don't get discouraged, ALWAYS RISE ABOVE ALL THE LAUGHTER AND CRITICISM. STAY STRONG.' "

Doctors can chronicle in great detail what happens to the human body when a person dies. But no one can say with certainty what happens to the person’s soul when the heart stops beating. Scientists tend to shy away from this topic because it’s hard to prove where the soul and essence of a person lies within the body, let alone if it really exists in the first place.

Yet, time and time again, people from different faiths and cultural backgrounds speak on these things in a spiritual sense. Those who have experienced near-death experiences often describe seeing a white light or tunnel. These individuals also describe a feeling of peace and calm and a desire to approach that light.

The closest we will get to understanding something so complicated and abstract as the soul or what happens to our spiritual being when we pass on is to hear the personal stories from people. Those who have come very close to the other side but made their way back to the world of the living.

Zack Clements is a teen who was looking forward to turning 17 years old on May 5th.
Zack who lives in Brownwood, Texas, is a regular teen who is part of his high school’s football team and loves to play video games.
 
Victory Life Academy was holding their football endurance training that day.
Out of nowhere and without warning the Warrior Athletics student collapse on the football field. The principal, Gary Bay, used to be a volunteer ambulance crew. He got to work to help and save Zack.



An ambulance crew and coach performed CPR on the teen. “The situation was one of the gravest I’d seen,” says Bay.
Zack was transferred to the Children’s Medical Center in Fort Worth, Texas.

By the time Zack’s parents Teresa and Billy Clements met with doctors at the hospital, they were given the grim news.
Zack had been dead for 20 minutes. Doctors were concerned of irreversible brain damage.

Miraculously, Zack’s heart began to beat on his own.
The teenager was put in a medically induced coma. His body temperature was lowered so his brain could recover from the cardiac trauma.

Days after dying and returning back to life, Zack woke up from his hospital bed.
He shocked the staff who were worried he would be like other people who never wake up from a medically induced coma after such a traumatic experience.

His heart stop beating due to a rhythm problem, small abnormal coronary artery, and inflammation.
Doctors admit they do not work on someone’s body for that long. After a certain time when there is no pulse, doctors have no other choice but to call the time.

Three days after his heart stopped breathing, Zack told his parents something he had seen.
Zack said he had seen a man with a thick beard, blue eyes, and long, ruffled hair. He said Jesus was surrounded by angels.

Zack revealed the man did not tell him his name but he knew it was Jesus.
“He put his hand on my shoulder and told me that everything was going to be all right. It made me feel like someone was watching over me and I was going to get through it,” says Zack.
From that experience, the teen says he has changed.
“Since it happened, I feel like I’m a stronger person,” admits Zack.

His mom, Teresa says her son told her he had seen a row of angels and the prettiest one there was Jesus.
Billy and Teresa have received a lot of love and support from complete strangers across the country. The family has also encountered criticism.

One of the accusations the parents have received is that they gave their son a pill that would make it appear he went into cardiac arrest.
“People can argue science and logic, but they can’t argue somebody’s personal experience. They can’t take that away from Zack,” argues Billy.

Zack is back at school but he cannot join in any sports or physical activities for the time being.
He will be wearing a defibrillator vest that detects life-threatening heart rhythm. The vest is equipped to send a shock to the heart in such circumstances.

Almost three weeks after the life changing event, his family threw him a belated birthday party.
Everyone from first responders to hospital staff were invited to help Zack celebrate turning 17 and being alive.

Cardiologist, Dr. Lisa Roten who was part of Zack’s medical team says that society does not like to think what happens when we die.
“It’s an uncomfortable thing. But somebody who is not clinically dead or has not been in that state cannot say what Zack did or did not see. He is somebody who, for 20 minutes, didn’t have a heartbeat,” explains Dr. Roten.

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1. EVERY ONE YOU MARRY HAS A WEAKNESS.

Only God has no weakness, Every rose flower has its own thorn

2. EVERY ONE YOU MARRY HAS A DARK HISTORY.

No one is an angel, avoid digging one's past forgive and forget

3. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS ITS OWN CHALLENGES.

Marriage is not bed of roses every shinning marriage has gone through its own test of fire

4. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS DIFFERENT LEVELS OF SUCCESS.

We can never be equal, some will be far front and others far behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true

5. TO MARRY IS TO DECLARE A WAR.

When you marry you enter in to a battle field. Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

6. THERE IS NO PERFECT MARRIAGE.

There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is a hard work, volunteer yourself and perfect it daily

7. GOD CANNOT GIVE YOU A COMPLETE PERSON YOU DESIRE.

He gives you, him or her inform of raw materials in order for you to mould what you desire

8. TO MARRY IS TO TAKE A RISK.

You cannot predict what will happen after marriage, situation may change, so leave a room for adjustment

9. MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT, IT IS PERMANENT.

Marriage needs total commitment, love is the glue that makes a couple stick together. Divorce starts in the mind

10. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS A PRICE TO PAY.

There is no free love in marriage, You cannot love without giving a sacrifice

Blessed marriage life friends.

I actually got this story from a friend of mine that needs urgent response. 
Please read through careful and kindly leave your advice for her to read.

"Hello, my name is Stella, i started dating this guy in Dec. last year. We live in the same compound which is very odd. I never wanted to date him cause of that but he convinced me and went ahead to go see my elder sister and her hubby to ask for permission for us to date and possible my hand in marriage.

We were doing very well. He is Yoruba, i’m from Delta. He is such a nice caring and sweet guy that I fell madly in love with him. He takes very good care of me and showers me with love and everything. Fast forward to Jan/Feb this year, a certain caller kept calling and whenever they talk, they speak in Yoruba and sometimes in English.

He gives this attitude like the caller isn’t important. I started suspecting him. I asked and he said they’re friends. I just ignored but was still observing them. He never for once used me as his dp except on my birthday but he uses a pics of a particular girl once in a while. When I ask he will say she is a friend.

Because I trusted him I just ignored. All the while we were together, no lady came visiting except his colleagues from work. My birthday was in April, I had a small party with few friends, so 2 days after I sent him a text confessing my love and affection to him, his reply was so cold.

So I went over to his apartment so we can talk, that was where he dropped the bomb!!!. That he told his family about me, they said he can’t marry non Yoruba. That I should give him time to sort things out. I cried my eyes out. He even suggested that I get pregnant for him so that his family won’t stop us from getting married, i refused!.
Then he came up again that it was a prophecy a prophetess gave his mum, that if he should get married to a non Yoruba, its either the marriage won’t last or one of us will die (God forbid!). I just told him that, my God isn’t tribalistic and he doesn’t kill or give such prophecies!. I broke up with him.

After some days, he said we should go seek spiritual help that we should go to one of his pastors so we can pray to avert the prophecy. I agreed, so a day to when we were suppose to go, i just decided to check his IG page and I saw it. The pics of the girl, he up loaded two pics of hers with a romantic caption. I went mad and told him to stay away from me.

After a while I felt it wasn’t necessary being enemies since we live in the same compound. We became friends again, that people still think we were dating. Fast forward to last 2 weekends his girlfriend came visiting, though he told me she will be coming over. I felt bad but since we have broken up, i just decided to stay cool.

I carried myself well and avoided seeing him or the girl. It worked, i then decided to stay away from him for good. All the while the girl was around, he kept calling but i didn’t pick up nor gave him any room to talk to him. My problem now is, i want to stay away from him but it seems impossible, i need advice".

Thanks

Hi, I am a girl of 23 and i have been dating my boyfriend for close to a year now. We have been doing Fine Until recently. I am a virgin, while he is a sexually active guy. I have always had the wish to Get married to a virgin. And i have not met one person that has been able to convince me otherwise. Recently, we started having issue over this issue.

I am not ready to give in and he is like he cannot hold on again. We stay in different part of the country. So we only Get to see once a while but we communicate constantly via social media and phone calls. Few days ago he told me if he cheats on me that I should not crucify him and that he cannot hold on for too long again and then we had an issue over that and then he asked me if I will prefer he cheats on me and not tell me.

I appreciate his honesty and sincerity but then I don’t think I can stand it if he cheats on me. I am not ready to break up with him and he is equally not ready to break up with me either. Initially the issue looked like something I could avoid but not anymore. I am not ready to change my mind and he told me it is difficult by the day for him to keep up with that.

I am really so Confused. Now it looks like I am a selfish person and i should probably just let him be since I cannot give him my body. But then I am Confused if I should overlook it but I fear that will mean he can keep cheating. I need advice.
Thanks

The look on his face said it all, and it was a look with many emotions rolled up in one.

Each of his words was laced with a deep sense of grief, despair, and confusion; he had lost his woman and his first son in one day.

Buchi Eze, 30, stood awkwardly on the edge of the pit, where his woman, Blessing, had fallen to her death. She was 23 years old and was eight months pregnant.

Perhaps, Eze’s confusion overrode other emotions as he told his story because only a day before, Blessing had just returned home from a hospital, where she was on admission for four days after falling inside a pit beside the one in which she had taken her last fall.

“I am confused; I don’t understand how my woman fell inside the pits twice in one week,” he said with a look that seemed to be seeking for answers in the air.

“Her death was painful and I don’t think it was natural. The pits have been there for a long time and she met them here when she moved in with me in January, so how did she fall inside the pits twice in six days? She was not mentally unstable and did not show any suicidal tendencies.
“All the children in the compound pass there always and none of them has fallen inside before, so I am still confused. After she fell inside one of the pits the first time, I dismissed it as a mistake, but after the second one, I concluded that it was not natural.”

The couple shared a rented room in an uncompleted building on Akinola Street in Lusada community, Ado-Odo/Ota Local Government Area of Ogun State, until the incident.

Both pits were meant to serve as septic tank and soak away for the adjoining house but because there was no fence separating the buildings, Eze and other occupants of the house only had to walk about two metres from their backyard door to reach the edge of the pits.

Both pits had been overgrown by weeds after being abandoned since 2012.

Eze had not slept in the house since the incident occurred because he was afraid of what memories of Blessing and all they shared would come with. He feared the worst; he was frightened that they would bring nightmares and more tears.

Since Blessing’s death, Eze has been having goose pimples every now and then, so he concluded that her spirit still hovered nearby.

Eze’s curiosity was also piqued by Blessing’s last words to him after he had jumped in the pit to save her.

“I was on my way home when I heard that my woman was in pit the second time,” he said.

“When I got there, I saw my woman lying face down in the pit again. She was sleeping gently when I left home. She lay on the ground face down. People were holding me but I jumped inside the pit.

“As I raised her head up, she seemed to regain consciousness. I said ‘why again? Do you want to kill me? She said she did not know how she got there, and that she just realised where she was as we were talking.”

First fall