LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP ANGLE

09:34:00

WISDOM FOR LIVING HEALTHY...

This is a short story told by the president of Kenya, Uhuru Kenyatta and I felt it was worth sharing.

"I was jogging this morning and I noticed a person about 1/2 a kilometre ahead.
I could tell he was running a little slower than me and I thought, good, I shall try to catch him.

I had about a kilometre before I needed to turn off. So I started running faster and faster. Every block, I was gaining on him just a little bit. After just a few minutes I was only about 100 metres behind him, so I really picked up the pace and pushed myself. You would have thought I was running in the last leg of an Olympic competition. I was determined to catch him.

Finally, I did it! I caught and passed him. On the inside I felt so good."I beat him" Of course, he didn't even know we were racing.

After I passed him, I realised I had been so focused on competing against him that I had missed my turn. I had gone nearly six blocks past my turn and I had to turn and go back".

A brief charge from my friend, Rev. Victor Ekpe.

Friend, Isn't that what happens in life when we focus on competing with co-workers, neighbours, friends, family, trying to outdo them or trying to prove that we are more successful or more important?

We spend our time and energy running after them and we miss out on our own paths to our God given destinies.

The problem with unhealthy competition is that its a never ending cycle.

There will always be somebody ahead of you, someone with a better job, nicer car, more money in the bank, more education, a prettier wife, a more handsome husband, better behaved children, etc.

But realize that "You can be the best that you can be, you are not competing with any one."

Some people are insecure because they pay too much attention to what others are , where others are going, wearing and driving.

Take what God has given you, the height, weight and personality. Dress well and wear it proudly, you'll be blessed by it.

Stay focused and live a healthy life.

Just as Paul said in 2Timothy 4:7 "I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith:

04:48:00

SINGLES CORNER: THE DON’TS IN COURTSHIP (PART 1)

06:41:00

WRONG IDEAS ABOUT LOVE AND SEX...

05:12:00

7 SIGNS OF A HEALTHY MARRIAGE...

I bet you want to know if you have a healthy marriage.

I have been privileged to interact with so many married couples and I've seen many couples who are desperately struggling in their marriages, we have also seen many couples who are thriving and happy.

The seven traits listed below represent some tell-tale “signs’ of a happy and healthy marriage. If you already have these in your marriage, keep up the great work! If you’re currently lacking these, please don’t lose hope. Start today and begin building a stronger marriage. A healthy marriage is possible for EVERY couple who is willing to work together to achieve it.

If you want a stronger marriage, start with these seven steps. The healthiest and happiest couples do the following with consistency (in no particular order):

1. Healthy couples speak respectfully about their spouse even when their spouse isn’t there to hear it.

The tone of your words when speaking to your spouse OR about your spouse will ultimately set the tone of your entire marriage. Resist the temptation to trash talk your spouse when he/she has done something you don’t like. Work through disagreements with mutual respect and protect and defend your spouse’s reputation in public and in private. Speak to each other and speak about each other with respect.

2. Healthy couples prioritize face time more than screen time*.

We live in a digital age where it can be tempting to spend more time looking at our phone and other screens more than we make eye contact with the people who matter most. The healthiest couples make time to turn off their phones so they can engage in meaningful conversation. They don’t “escape” from each other by being consumed by their devices.

3. Healthy couples don’t keep score of each other’s past mistakes.

Your spouse has seen you at your best AND seen you at your worst. The healthiest couples choose to bring out the best in each other by celebrating and highlighting each other’s strengths and areas of growth instead of consistently holding each other down by bringing up mistakes from the past. When a couple “keeps score,” they both lose. When a couple chooses to encourage each other and extend grace, they both win. Healthy couples forgive each other quickly and work hard to rebuild trust when it has been damaged.

4. Healthy couples don’t prioritize the happiness of their kids ahead of the health of their marriage.

If you have kids, clearly you need to do everything in your power to protect and provide for them BUT one of the most destructive things you can do in your family is to put your marriage on hold while you’re raising your children. Don’t end up with an “empty nest” and an empty marriage at the same time. Give your kids the beautiful gift of seeing their parents in a loving, committed relationship. Invest in a consistent date night. Find reliable babysitters. Model the kind of marriage that makes your kids excited to be married someday.

5. Healthy couples make sex a consistent priority.

If you only make love when both spouses are equally “in the mood” at the exact same time, it’s like waiting for all the stars in the galaxy to come into perfect alignment (it doesn’t happen often). The healthiest couples prioritize sexual intimacy by trying to say “YES” as often as they can and also by trying to initiate lovemaking as often as they can.

6. Healthy couples don’t keep secrets from each other.

The healthiest couples have a “secret-free guarantee” in their marriage. They don’t have hidden bank accounts or secret passwords the other spouse doesn’t know about. Secrecy (or dishonesty) in any form is an enemy of intimacy. If you want your marriage to grow and thrive, don’t keep secrets and don’t tell lies to each other. Your marriage will never be stronger than the level of trust you have for each other.

7. Healthy couples build their lives on a foundation of faith.

I’m convinced that the more you love God, the more capacity you will have to love your spouse. The healthiest couples I know are the ones who pray with and for each other, they’re rooted in their faith, active in a healthy church and they’re putting their faith in action by serving together to help their community.