LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP ANGLE

A 35 year old vulcanizer, Kingsley Edosa was yesterday arraigned before a Benin Magistrate Court for allegedly beating up a female tenant.
According to report, Edosa is currently facing trial for  the assault an Amaka Okafor who accused him of hitting her in the eyes 0n 11 July at their residence 15, Obaseki Street, New Benin  a house Edosa inherited from his late father.

The prosecutor, Assistant Superintendent Sylvester Omor, revealed to the court that Okafor sustained some injuries from the Brutalizing.
The accused who pleaded not guilty to the assault charge was granted bail in the sum of N50,000 and a surety in like sum, who must be gainfully employed. The bail was given by the magistrate, Mr. A. P. Saiki who adjourned the case till July 25, for hearing.

When next a game is on,  take a look at the players, the referees, the linesmen and the spectators.
Out of all these category of people, the only people who don't wear a wrist watch are the players on the field.
They get into the pitch and play their hearts out knowing that even though they don't know the exact time, the exact minute the game will end and the whistle will be blown,  they are conscious of the fact that the game will definitely end when the one holding the time blows his whistle.
I liken this to our race here on earth.
We are on the pitch of play called life.
And even though we all wear wrist watches, they are just a man-made devise to guide our daily activities and give us a sense of timing. The one who holds time is somewhere waiting and watching us play our game on the pitch of life. He has a whistle. When the time is up, by HIS own timing, he will blow the whistle and the game will be over and then winners and loosers will emerge and rewards will be given to deserving players.
It is only after the referee's whistle has sounded that I notice people weep or jubilate.
They cry and gnash their teeth because, it's all over! The game is over and the time is up!  They weep because  they see missed opportunities, missed scoring chances, but by that time, the time is up! The game is over.
And those who celebrate do so because they won the match. They were adjudged winners and deserving of the much - contested trophy.
Let me encourage you today, dear friends, that your wristwatch is not the time.
Oh no its not!
The time is with the one who created time and only HE determines when the time starts and stops for each one of us.
With this in mind, let's strive for mastery and reach for the goal as we play on the pitch of life...
The play is still on
I sense we have long returned from our half-time break.
I sense that we may perhaps be in our extra time, just incase we will capitalise on the extra time to hit the goal correctly....
Tick - tack-tick-tack... Time is going...
It is not our wristwatch that's reading, it's God's time ticking away....
Play your game well.
Play it with utmost concentration.
Shut out the spectators who are either cheering or jeering.
Keep your eyes on the goal post .
Play hard!!!

A word is enough

Please note that the qualifications are not limited to these points alone.

1. HUMILITY: An intending chorister must be ready to be submissive and subordinate to the choir leaders. This is critical because the choir is usually a place for the “Stars and Super-Stars” who like to show off their stuff to everyone.

2. QUICK-LEARNING SKILL: Time is never sufficient during rehearsal because there are always many songs to learn. Therefore, an ability to learn quickly is a big asset to a good chorister. Besides, one must be highly teachable, musically.

3. GOOD VOICE AND HEARING ABILITY: A good voice and listening ears for rhythm, tones and sounds are valuable to an intending chorister else, he must be ready to endure thorough training to acquire these skills.

4. PRACTICE SKILL: This implies doing the same things correctly under instructions repeatedly, several times for a length of time until the act is improved upon and mastered for a perfect presentation. Not everyone can endure this – because of the discipline of focus and concentration it demands. Some songs can take several days and some musical instruments several years to master.

5. MATURITY: As in other things, an intending chorister must handle his emotions well. Music rides on emotions. A fellow may be admired, appreciated or flattered for a good performance and conversely embarrassed, misunderstood and unduly criticised or ignored due to a perceived poor performance.

6. TOLERANCE: The choir is a heterogeneous mixture of different age groups. Therefore, an elderly fellow must be ready to tolerate the idiosyncrasies and exuberance of the lesser-aged who are always the majority in the choir.

7. MINISTERIAL ETHICS: A chorister is a minister. He must be morally and ethically minded else, he becomes a tool for the devil.

8. AVAILABILITY: This is very crucial! There can be no improvement and mastery without thorough participation. Ability without availability is a futility.

9. COMPLIANCE WITH CHOIR REGULATIONS: The stipulated choir regulations must be observed - including the need to wear choir uniforms as the occasions may require.

10. NEATNESS: A chorister must be simple in outlook, well dressed and neat in his/her uniform during church events.

1. "WHATEVER WILL BE, WILL BE"
Whatever will be will not be; you have to make it be. You have a part to play in what will be in your life, so don't leave it to chance.

2. "HALF BREAD IS BETTER THAN NONE!"
Why settle for half bread when you can get  a full bread or even own a bakery. This is a limiting belief that positions you to settle for less and it is a mediocre philosophy.

3."A FOOL AT FORTY IS A FOOL FOREVER"
A fool at any age can be a fool forever if he refuses to let go of his foolishness. It is never too late to become wise because the day you wake up and wise up is the day you CHANGE!

4. "FINGERS ARE NOT EQUAL"
Yes! Physical fingers in your hands are not equal but that does not make any of them valueless. Lose one and you realise that they are all valuable. You are not even a finger, so why look down on yourself.

5. "LIFE BEGINS AT FORTY"
If you are below forty and believe this, I feel so sorry for you because it means you are not yet alive.

6. "WHAT GOES UP MUST COME DOWN"
Is your age coming down? Is your wisdom and knowledge coming down? Is the price of goods coming down? Think my friend!

7. "HE WHO LAUGH LAST, LAUGHS BEST!"
Why laugh last when you can laugh always and why laugh best when laughter is not a competition. When we programmed ourselves with these strange philosophies, they limit and restrict us.

Apart from the s*xual portion, showering as a couple has other immense benefits — and no, we’re not just talking about saving on water. Here’re 5 reasons you should get bathing together instead of solo:

1. It brings you closer as a couple.
Yes, you may be sleeping in the same bed and sharing your lives, but there’s something about showering together that brings you closer and allows you to discover your partner’s body in a completely different way. To make it even better, there are plenty of ways to spice up your shower rituals together so you look forward to it EVERY. SINGLE. MORNING.

2. It’s sexy.
There will be times when showering together will turn into shower s*x, but there will also be times when it just gives you an opportunity to be a little sexy and flirtatious without being late to work. If it does happen to turn into shower s*x though, don’t forget to use a personal lubricant to ease the process along and create some slippery fun in the process.

3. It makes you more comfortable with your body.

If you’ve ever had insecurities about your body, showering together really does help you get rid of them. Plus, you can always ask your partner to scrub your body from top to bottom with luxurious butter soaps that will leave your skin moisturized and feeling amazing. Once you’re done, you can use fragrant oils to moisturize even more and leave your skin incredibly soft.

4. It starts your morning off right every single day.

Whether you’re headed out to work for a stressful day or you’re off to Sunday brunch,showering together in the morning will give ANY day a good start. Even if you don’t have a TON of time to wash your hair and get EVERYTHING done, popping in the shower — shower cap and all — with your partner for a quick cuddle is totally doable (and sweet!).

5. It allows you to turn daily mundane activities into something to look forward to.

Not that you’d ever not look forward to a shower, but just like with every daily activity, we all have our moments when we just don’t feel like it. Maybe because we’re tired that day, or maybe it’s a bit colder than usual and we just want to stay in bed. Whatever your reasoning, once you decide to turn it into a ritual with your partner, it becomes something MORE — something magical that the two of you share every morning. Something that allows you to connect before the outside world takes over.

So go ahead, start a new ritual with your partner and turn up the heat!

It amazes me today to see so many Church buildings been built, so many Pastors been called, so many sermons been preached, so many prayers been prayed and yet, people cannot seem to overcome sin and their problems keep increasing every single day,  especially people who profess to be Christians...  After series of prayers, I asked God, why are all these happening? And that was when He began with me on the journey to "THE FALLEN CHURCH"

He said to me.........

I see my children gathered in churches to pray against the devil "Lucifer" and all they do is to scream "Holy Ghost Fire, Fire Fire" as many times as thay can, they go home tired and exhausted and yet nothing happens... You see, Its because they dont really know who this devil is, let alone how to overcome him. My Son, do you remember what Lucifer did in heaven some time ago? "I couldn't answer"
You see, the devil is not scared because you scream Fire Fire Fire, this is someone who was able to persuade and pervert 1/3 of my angels who were with me, do you know what angels are made of?

Psalm 104:4 "Who maketh his angels spirits; his ministers a flaming fire"

My angels are made spirits and were covered in flames of fire and yet Lucifer was able to corrupt their Divine nature and convert them into demons, and my children on earth think they can overcome him by just screaming fire? Even those who were made with fire fell to his schemes, how much more you who are flesh and blood?

My Son, I will show you how to overcome the enemy so you can save my CHURCH and other Souls hungry for my salvation....

You see, the strategy of the enemy will never change, in the garden of Eden, he used what was around man to destroy what was in man. When the devil attacks your finances, Its not because he needs your money, because Lucifer doesn't spend money in the dark world, he doesn't attack your marriage because he wants to marry your spouse, he doesn't attack your car because he wants a new ride... You see, when the devil attacks any of these things, its because he has realised your heart is connected to them so if he can touch them, then he can touch your heart  and destroy you. The devil will always uses what is around you to get what is in you.

But Christians today are more mindful of what is around them, more than what is in them, we are more scared of loosing money than loosing our soul and that is why we can never overcome the devil, instead of setting your heart on fire through purity and righteousness, you are rather praying to set fire around your business, money, cars, future... I pity the Church, if the devil is able to capture your heart by making you live in sin, he has power over your physical materials...

Proverbs 4:23 says "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life"

Keeping something diligently is more like guarding it from any external influence but unfortunately, the Church today is seriously guarding physical materials and we have sold our soul so cheap to the devil, and that's why we don't care living in sin and immorality but we are scared of not getting a marriage partner, or not making a lot of money... We scream fire fire fire, whiles our heart is as cold as winter... We have neglected the messages that prepares people for the second coming Jesus Christ and all we talk about is how to make money and be prosperous on earth, and the more the messages of Repentance, Holiness, Fear of God, Heaven and Hell are neglected the more Sin increases,  and the more sin increases, the more the Churches fall before Satan...
The fallen Church will only be mindful of building an extravagant building with broken souls living in it and that is why there are Christians speaking in tongues in Church and yet addicted to all kinds of secret sins, and they will tell you "We are living under grace" as if grace is a license to sin.

Its a pity seeing my Church walk in deception...
They have believed in this deception that there was God the father who was always angry at sin, and there is Jesus the Son who also smiling at sin and says...  As long as you have your church's membership record intact, you have a fat wallet to keep your pastor always smiling, you have a few bible verses you can memorise, a nice Voice to sing about me and a deep Voice to preach about me, you can do anything you want and live anyhow... My Church is in trouble.

But I will still save those
 want to save so go and spread this message to all men,  delivering them from the venom of Sin... Tell them to be more mindful of the sins that corrupt the soul, than the witch that stole their money, because if a witch can steal your money, its because it first corrupted  your soul through sin.

A WORD TO THE CHURCH

1 Samuel 12:20-25

And Samuel said to the people, “Do not be afraid; you have done all this evil. Yet do not turn aside from following the Lord, but serve the Lord with all your heart. And do not turn aside after empty things that cannot profit or deliver, for they are empty. For the Lord will not forsake his people, for his great name's sake, because it has pleased the Lord to make you a people for himself. Moreover, as for me, far be it from me that I should sin against the Lord by ceasing to pray for you, and I will instruct you in the good and the right way. Only fear the Lord and serve him faithfully with all your heart. For consider what great things he has done for you. But if you still do wickedly, you shall be swept away, both you and your king.

Without Repentance, there will be no Revival and all you will be left with will be Noise making.

Lord, help your church to get back on her feet...

Singles, It Is Sad But the True is That Most Battered Wives Started Out As Battered Fiancées Or Girlfriends.

What You Allow In Courtship Is What Will Continue In Marriage! Do Not Marry Out Of Pity Thinking Things Will get Better In Marriage.
True Love Will Not Humiliate You! It Will Never Abuse You In Anyway. Love Doesn't Make You Cry! Your Tears Should Be Tears Of Joy, Not Pain!

If All You Feel Is Pain, Fear And Sorrow With This Person, There Is Something Wrong With The Relationship! A Good Relationship Will Enhance Your Life And Make You Better.

Dear Single Ladies, Marriage Is Not An Emergency! It Is Never A Do Or Die Affair!
Don't Let Your Age, The Fear Of How Will I Get Another Man Or Pressure From Family And Friends Make You Get Wasted With One Man Who Doesn't Know Your Worth.
Because Once You are married, You Cannot Ask people to Live And Marry Your Husband For You. It Is Absolutely Your Cup Of Tea.

A Good Run Is Better Than A Bad Stand...

A DIVORCED WOMAN WROTE;

I am writing to you in order to make someone understand that it's good to appreciate our partners despite their flaws. No one is perfect even you! Many of us don't appreciate what we have until we lose it!

I am 32 years old. My ex hubby & I dated for six years. We where best of friends, I waited until he completed college and started work, my family and his family then met, we got married and had a son. (7 years old now).

My husband was short tempered at times, but our problems started when I wanted to make him feel he couldn't control me.

Every time we argued, I would pack my bags, go to my family and explain.

My sisters would phone my husband and shout at him. If he was controlling me I would always dare him that if he wished, he could divorce me. I never wanted divorce, I just had pride and I never wanted to look like a loose woman in his eyes.

One day I pushed him so hard that for the first time he beat me and locked me outside. I went to my family, my family took him to the police, every time I looked like I was being abused!

But to be honest, I used to abuse my husband emotionally. He was arrested and detained. I was asked by his family to withdraw the case, I felt that what I was doing was wrong.

My husband was never a violent man, he did what he did because I pushed him to the wall of which he openly knelt down and apologized. I withdrew the charge, and we reconciled. After three months, I packed my bags after a small issue, and he remained alone.

After two days I received a call that he was in the hospital, my family told me that I shouldn't go there because it would look like I was begging him, and my sisters believed he was feigning the illness.

All this time, people felt sorry for me like I was the one being abused. He spent a week in the hospital, after he came out, I just received a divorce summon. I wanted to say no to divorce, but because I felt this pride, I wanted him to change his mind and beg me.

 I called him and said he would get the divorce because I lived like I was in hell. When we went to court, I wanted to make him pay, so I told the court that I needed his properties to be shared.

 To my surprise he openly told the court that whatever he and I acquired together should be given to me, all he wanted was divorce.
We were divorced in 2009 July.

Now, this Saturday (today) my husband is marrying, whilst l am here wasted!

Those who gave me wrong advise have forsaken me. My family members are gossiping about me, I depend on what my ex gives to my son for survival. I know I wasted my marriage. I am here telling all wives that they should be careful how they get advice.  Don't entertain family interference in your marriage my dear reader. Even my young sisters are much more respected than me. Those who encouraged me to get divorced are always teasing and
bad mouthing me. Please ladies be vigilant in your marriage
Thought it wise to share my story to save your marriage.

There is no benefit in pride for nothing. Pride and Third party influence will kill your marriage if you allow them.
SOMETIMES‬ IT'S NOT THE MAN'S FAULT AT ALL, IT'S YOUR PRIDE,AND THE PEOPLE YOU ALLOW TO ADVICE YOU.

Dear, No marriage is perfect! Don't compare your spouse to anyone's spouse! Love your spouse unconditionally! Invite God into your home! Build your marriage on the Word of God! Irrespective of your marital challenge, Be focused and build your home! Make up your mind to make your marriage work because your marriage is what you make it to be!

May God give you the wisdom to build a joyful and long lasting marriage in Jesus name

In 1831, Abraham Lincoln failed in business.
In 1832, Abraham Lincoln was defeated for state legislator.
In 1833, Abraham Lincoln tried a new business, and failed.
In 1835, Abraham Lincoln’s fiancée died.
In 1836, Abraham Lincoln had a nervous breakdown.
In 1843, Abraham Lincoln ran for congress and was
defeated.
In 1848, Lincoln ran again, and was defeated. Again.
In 1855, Lincoln ran for the Senate, and lost.
In 1856, Lincoln ran for Vice President, and lost.
In 1859, Lincoln ran again for the Senate. He was defeated.
Then, in 1860, Abraham Lincoln was elected President of the United States.
What matters most is not how many times you fail, but that
you never stop trying.