LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP ANGLE

After salvation, the most important choice you will need to make is who to marry. This choice
is so important that if you miss it, you will suffer for long, if you get it right then you will enjoy forever. A bad marriage can affect every other area of your life. This subject is so important, so many married people are hoping to be single again so as to make the right choice. If you are single please don't just be in a hurry to get married, you have the best opportunity to prepare for it. For two people to come together to live in peace and harmony, they must agree spiritually, mentally and physically. Just like an elephant cannot marry an ant so also a believer cannot marry an unbeliever. If an elephant marries an ant how would they live, if a goat marries a fish where would they meet? You must look for a godly man or a godly woman to marry, nothing can beat this. The devil's primary target is the family. He knows that everyone belongs to a family and if he can make two wrong people meet then he has succeeded affecting the community and nations negatively. Ignore your age and the pressure for a moment, the
pressure in a wrong marriage is far worse.

God has somebody for you but you must set your priorities right. What do you need in a woman? What do you need in a man?Marriage is not about what you want, it is about who you need, that will make you better while
you make him better. It is about destiny. That is why you must know your purpose before you
get married. (Genesis 2:18.) You must pray before you choose. God knows the best person for you, it is only wise to seek His will. It is very easy to know God's will when sex is not involved. The moment sex is involved and you want to know His will then He
will blank you out. Why? Because you have broken His first Law of NO SEX before marriage. If you have had sex in the past then
you need to repent totally and stay away from each other for some time then you can seek
the face of God. Your marriage will not be hell on earth. Your marriage will be honourable in
the name of Jesus Christ.

* Don't marry for sex,
* Don't marry because you are of age,
* Don't marry because you are getting old,
* Don't marry because you are lonely,
* Don't  marry because you need someone to support you financially,
* Don't marry because you
mistakenly got pregnant,
* Don't marry because you don't want to lose the person,
* Don't marry because of family pressures,
* Don't marry because you like
the idea of marriage and admire every wedding gown you see,
* Don't marry because all your friends are getting married.

But
* Get married because you want to fulfil destiny.
* Get married because you want to be a help mate.
* As a man, get married because you want to fulfil your purpose.

God will help you in choosing, please let His will be done. Amen!

Laughter is a good medicine to keep the marriage thrilling. You can imagine how boring a marriage will be without laughter. Try this! Watch a funny movie together and explore the child in each other. Go through your old pictures and laugh together as you remember old times. This goes a long way in driving boredom out of your marriage.

Married Couples, You Can Be Spiritual & Still Be Romantic. Pray together, Watch Films Together, Play together, laugh together, dance together, sing together, eat together, bath together, spend together, do exercise together, sleep together, play football together and celebrate together with your spouse.

Treat Your Spouse As Your Best Friend And A Treasure Not As Your Enemy.” Marriage Is A True Test Of Love! Enjoy Your Marriage.- Pastor  Sam Olagbenjo

A lady needs your advice...
My husband has turned into a monster. This afternoon, he
just finished beating me inside the car in broad day light in
our area where we are well known.
He came out of the car
and tried to open the car to drag me out. I had to rush to the
drivers side before he could get to me. Am writing this in
tears now cos this is not the man I married.
Only God knows if someone I know saw me and the shame
he just brought upon me. All this started when he lost his
job a year ago. It started from a mere slap to this. I can't
have a full conversation with him anymore cos once he
hears something that would trigger his anger, he would hit
me.
No matter where we are and he does it more in public and
for the most little reasons. I'm scared as he's doing it in
front of my son and I don't want him to grow up seeing this.
My parents are not aware that he hits me, no one is aware.
People think we are a sweet couple, but we are far from
sweet. It's not like we're suffering, we are not really
lacking.

I'm currently working and he has an investment that's
helping us as well. What do I do?. Should I tell my parents?.
He's getting worse everyday, when he's angry. I don't
recognise him anymore, he's not calm until he hits me.

This is not what I bargained for?. I cannot count how many times
he has slapped me in the car. This disgrace is too much.
We've been married for three years now. This past year has
been the worst ever. What is going on?. Is he frustrated?. Is
he Bipolar?. Does it happen to others?. I mean, their
husband changing over night cos of a job loss.

Should I report him to my parents?. I've informed his family about it
before, they did nothing about it.
His mother even hates it when we're happy and rejoices
when we fight. That's story for another day. What do I do?.
I can't believe this is happening to me.

Thanks

This is pretty strange how it worked out this way. You should read this

Q: What is the shortest chapter in the Bible?
A: Psalm 117

Q: What is the longest chapter in the Bible?
A: Psalm 119

Q: Which chapter is in the centre of the Bible?
A: Psalm 118

Facts: There are 594 chapters before Psalms 118.
There are 594 chapters after Psalms 118.
Add these numbers up and you get 1188.

Q: What is the centre verse in the Bible?
A: Psalm 118:8

Does this verse say something significant about God's perfect will for our lives?
The next time someone says they would like to find God's perfect will for their lives and that they want to be in the centre of His will, just send them to the centre of His Word!

Psalms 118:8 (NKJV) says
"It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man."

Now isn't that odd how this worked out...or was God in the centre of it?

1. You work your entire life making money just to get a wife.

2. You have to act tough no matter your fears.

3. After buying a ring, You'll need to beg a woman to confirm whether you get married or not.

4. You spend millions to make your wedding a success and your wife takes the glory.

5. You work extra hours after marriage.

6. You give money for house keeping + food stuffs and you get to eat only dinner

7. No matter the degree you've acquired in education, You lose your worth if you fail to perform in bed

8. You work hard to make properties
just to make a will for your wife and
children

9. You spend your hard earned money to take your children to school and when they grow up they celebrate
mother's day...

Happy Fathers' day to all Fathers
 Lol

Hahahahaa! Gossip warriors or prayer warriors? Ok!‎

1.) Brethren, let's remember brother James Oghene in our prayers. He has Gonorrhoea and doctors say they are even screening him for HIV too, but we know that our God can heal him. So brothers and sisters, let us pray for divine healing. Pray now!

2.) Brethren, let's also pray for sister Kate and bro Kingsley. Sister Kate is pregnant for bro Kingsley and as you all know,Bro. Kingsley is not ready for marriage now; you also know they are not married, right? Ok. He told her to abort but she refused, and the situation is tearing them and their families apart. Let's pray to God for peace and divine intervention. Prayer!‎

3.) Children of God, let's remember Mr. and Mrs. Brighton in our prayers. Mr. Brighton left Mrs. Brighton for one young sister Mary in the Ushering department.‎ I hope you all know that light-skinned slim sister that is a medical doctor? Well, let's pray for God to restore Mr. and Mrs. Brighton's marriage. Pray now!

4.) Let us lift sister Bridget before the Lord. She has been suspended from her place of work due to some fraud in her office. We know she's innocent....even though she has been wearing some expensive jewelries lately plus that new car she just bought....errrh...let's pray that as the police are carrying out their investigations, those things will not be siezed in Jesus name. Open your mouth and fire prayer!‎
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Well, Romans 2;1 says: Therefore ‎thou art inexcusable, O man, whosoever thou art that judgest: for wherein thou judgest another, thou condemnest thyself; for thou that judgest doest the same things.
Stop judging, criticising or broadcasting people's faults and shortcomings all in the name of prayer or intercessory sessions! Repent from it ooooo!

Some people actually want to remain poor in life. So we shall be listing some ways/habits that can keep a man poor for life.
What are the ways?????????
1. Never wake up early. Keep stretching and turning in bed until you get too hungry to continue dozing. If there are no bedbugs, why hurry to get up?

2. Never plan how to spend your money. Whenever you get money, start spending it right away and when it's finished, you try to count and recall how you spent it.

3. Don't think of saving until you have real big money. How can you save when you earn so little? Those telling you to save are not sympathetic to your burning needs.

4. Don't engage in activities usually reserved for the "uneducated".
How can you, a graduate, engage in petty trade, network marketing or homebased production? That's for people who never went to school!

5. Don't think of starting a business until an angel comes from heaven and gives you capital. How do they expect you to invest before you get millions? Even though more than half the businesses in your town were started with little capital, you as a smart person can only start with millions.

6. Complain about everything except your own attitude and laziness. Blame the system, the government and the banks that refused to lend you money. They are all bad and do not want you to get rich.

7. Spend more than you earn. To achieve this, buy consumer products on credit and keep borrowing from friends and employers.

8. Compete in dressing. Make sure you're wearing the latest clothes. Intimidate the congregation with your trendy fashions every Sunday.
Whenever your neighbour buys a new phone, you get one that is more expensive.

9. Get yourself a nice second hand car that costs more than three times your yearly salary just because you want to show that you are a big boy while you mate are investing in assets.

10. Give your children everything they ask for since you're such a loving parent. They should not struggle for anything because you do not want them to suffer that way, they will grow up lazy and hence poor enough to ensure they can't help you at old age.

In this part of the world, you will find people without job nor source of income wanting to get loan to do burial ceremony.
You see people buying ASO EBI attending parties here & there & end up poor.
Some people spend more than they earn. They have no budget for their monthly finance yet claim that 'one spirit is taking money from them & making them poor!"
Habit is very important to your financial success or failure. Poverty is a culture. Success is an habit.

Achievement is an important aspect of life because with every achievement you feel like you are getting closer to success and this in itself provides a sense of joy and excitement. Moreover, it also provides a sense of accomplishment; the feeling that you are able to conquer any assignment and pass it with flying colors.

Ever felt that you are not able to complete or push through something you so often dreamed of? This happens to all of us, and is the way life works. For example, let us say you are a healthy person that loves being healthy and nutritious; always setting goals to be more active and more built.

Do you think you will achieve your dream beach body without going to the gym and putting in the effort? No, not in your wildest dreams will it ever happen. We are not saying this to put you and ourselves down, but instead to know the facts and learn how to tackle them. You will need to put in the effort to the last breath sometimes and may not even get the results you desire. Or perhaps you did certain things in the past that you do not necessarily like or feel proud of.



However, would you have learned from mistakes and improved if you had not done mistakes in the past? We need to make mistakes to learn from them and become high achievers. Once you learn from your mistakes and implement techniques that make you a high achiever, you will be appreciating of the fact that you went through the mistakes. Just make sure you are motivated to accomplish your goals.

The following are some key characteristics of high achievers:

1. They’re Doers
If chosen or given a task, do you stick with it until you achieve it no matter how tough or unproductive it is, or do you give up as soon as you see that you are not achieving any results and not progressing? This is a strong characteristic trait high achievers have. They are courageous and powerful enough to face their fears and challenges. However, they are still human and might face rejection or might not achieve their goals initially, but they make sure they do not give up and continue the fight until the end. So, what do you think of this valor act.

If you are not the type of person that is a fighter and keeps on going until the end, then try to make this small change in your day to day routine.

This strategy is one that if implemented properly and effectively could definitely help raise your energy levels and make you an “achiever.” Imagine these two scenarios. The first scenario is where a person is negative and whenever faced with difficulty backs down from the challenge. As a result, that person will not achieve their goals for that day or any other day as a matter of fact and thus might postpone or delay tasks from each day to some other time.

On the other hand, if the same person was to confront and face their fears and difficulties and challenge them, they would be able to push through the day and get everything done, achieving all what they set or planned.

2. They’re Time Managers
Do you spend some time off each day or maybe the night before to plan out your upcoming day such that your day is organized and managed in terms of time? If not, then explore this paragraph here. Time management is such a beneficial tool in life that could be used to either succeeding or unfortunately falling back and even failing. This is because time management helps you allocate the proper time to every task and helps organize your time.

However, without this time planning, you would randomly allocate time ineffectively and this could cause the day to go unmanaged. If you had a task that would take 4 hours for you to achieve, but you did not know that initially and did not manage these 4 hours earlier, then it could very likely carry over for a longer time and thus take over another task’s allocated time. High achievers value very much their time because they know that time is important and irreplaceable and thus make sure they have their time calendared.

Did you ever think of this in such detail? There are a lot of activities in life if not all that need you to manage your time. Do you want to transform into a “high achiever”? Time management is one of the simple changes we can all commit to in our daily lives to possibly increase the amount of activities we complete and to achieve good results. One simple thing we can do each day before going to bed is mange our schedules for the next day. People who really want to be on top of the game could prepare for the coming few days or maybe week.

One of the options is to prepare all the materials you need for tomorrow before you go to bed. Place the books you need for the next day in your back pack if you are a high-school or college student, prepare the clothes you need, and this will cause you to feel relaxed going to bed and not feel like you have urgent work to do when you wake up. One more thing you could do is plan out the various activities you have the next day and the timings that suit those activities.

3. They Pick Their Friends
Have you been in a situation before where you made the decision to pick your friends, or was it always the more friends you could grab the more you would take? Friends can have a very huge impact on your performance day in and day out, the way you think, your attitude, and perhaps even the type of goals you set. We will never be able to skip the fact that we are social animals and that we just cannot live without company and friendship.

Friends should be a source of uplifting and fill you with life, especially when you are in of your low points. A true friend will always be there for you and motivate you to achieve more and more, even when you are already at the top. Being the high achiever you are, you would like to have high achiever friends; individuals that know what it feels like to be in that situation and what it requires to further your skills and achievements.

In addition, they should really bring the best out of you. There are friends (that are not true friends) that will unfortunately bring the worst out of you because they are different and have different focuses and dreams. Their dreams might include being cool and just looking good. The problem with such dreams and goals is that they are very superficial; they do not have any depth or real purpose behind them. Any friend that brings the worst out of you or you feel brings you down instead of lifting you up is not a true friend.

Since finding a true, caring, motivational friend is something hard to find in life nowadays and not everyone is a good friend, you need to make sure you pick your friends carefully and wisely. Maybe start by considering this person an acquaintance; monitoring his attitude and the way he thinks. If you then feel like this person is a good match to your personality and could add value to your valuable life, then go ahead and befriend them.

Do wait for the first right act an individual does for you to consider them your friend, instead monitor them from time to time to see whether these good deeds and acts are continuous or just coincidental, where they happen once every long while. The bottom line is choose a type that matches your personality and that you know will bring out your achieving soul when around because friends affect each other, whether positively or negatively.

4. They Don’t Fall Into Bad Habits
Which side are you on, the one where you do not mind falling into and getting affected by bad habits, or are you on the side where you cannot afford falling into bad habits because you know this is a long downward spiral that could just crush a lot of dreams and goals you have? Well, the high achievers do not have time to fall into the bad habit spiral because they know life is short enough and thus cannot afford to lose any part of it.

All of the high achiever’s focus is on visualizing their achievements and taking the steps to accomplish and complete such tasks. Thus, if you are the kind of person that is tempted into falling into bad habits, then revaluate your life and what is important to you. You may find that you have been missing the point for quite some time and that you could much better on improving.

These are important points we need to pay attention to, because they could determine our future and maybe even our lives as a whole. We have all seen or know someone or even just over the news the story of people that fall into the dark whole of addiction all the time. Whether it is drugs, smoking, or other bad habits, there is a reason why they are called bad habits.

These habits do not only put whoever does them in danger, but also the people around them that love them and care for them and sometimes even strangers such as in accidents. This is why we need to make sure that we do not fall into any bad habits if we want to stay on the achievers’ side. I’m not saying you will never fall into bad habits, but make sure you try to avoid falling as much as possible and focus more on rising and staying ahead of the game.

5. They Work On Their Priorities
This is a very important concept when it comes to staying ahead and on top of the game. Prioritizing has a huge impact on being productive, efficient, and finishing required work. Do you consider yourself a high achiever, a normal achiever, or not an achiever at all? If you feel you need you are not big of an achiever as you wish to be, start working on your priorities.

Prioritizing is such an important concept that ties in with making use of your time and dividing up work into many sections. Putting first things first and making sure you have a list of important activities each day you need to finish. So if you think there is a certain activity you need to dedicate more time to in comparison to others, then push the other tasks a bit further down the day or maybe even to the next day and make sure you complete the most important tasks first.

Let us say you need to choose between exercising and going out for a movie, or maybe between working a couple of extra hours versus spending those extra hours with your family, it is up to you to decide which activity is more important. The decision is up to you as this is your time that could be either harvested or wasted. Non-important or less important activities can always be moved to another day as long as they do not affect your achieving scale and do not need to be done on the same day. Start being a high achiever by the simple action of prioritization.

There are many characteristics that pertain to high achievers mentioned and there are many more that could be learned. Just know that whatever strategy or method you implement, should work for you personally because not every method will work for every individual. If you are unsure at first what might work for you, do not be afraid to experiment to figure out a way that will work for you best. Once you have that set, you can maintain that strategy and improve an use it more often to achieve your goals and call your life a success story.

If  you will take the time to read these. I promise you'll go away with an enlightened perspective. The subjects covered  affect us all, on a daily basis:
   
They're  written by Andy Rooney, a man who had the gift of saying so  much with so few words.  .........Enjoy.........


I've  learned ...That  the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly  person.

I've  learned ....  That when you're in love, it shows.

I've  learned ....  That just one person saying to me, 'You've made my day!'  makes my day.

I've  learned ....  That having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the  most peaceful feelings in the  world.

I've  learned ....  That being kind is more important than being  right.

I've  learned ....  That you should never say no to a gift from a child.

I've  learned ....  That I can always pray for someone when I don't have the  strength to help him in some other way.

I've  learned ....  That no matter how serious your life requires you to be,  everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.

I've  learned ....  That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a  heart to understand.

I've  learned ....  That simple walks with my father around the block on summer  nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an  adult.

I've  learned ....  That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets  to the end, the faster it goes.

I've  learned ....  That we should be glad God doesn't give us everything we ask  for.

I've  learned ....  That money doesn't buy class.

I've  learned ....  That it's those small daily happenings that make life so  spectacular.

I've  learned ....  That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be  appreciated and loved.

I've  learned ....  That to ignore the facts does not change the  facts.

I've learned ....  That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only  letting that person continue to hurt  you.

I've  learned ....  That love, not time, heals all  wounds.

I've  learned ....  That the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to  surround myself with people smarter than I  am.

I've  learned ....  That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a  smile..

I've  learned ....  That no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.

I've  learned ...  That life is tough, but I'm tougher.

I've  learned ....  That opportunities are never lost; someone will take the  ones you miss.

I've  learned ....  That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock  elsewhere.

I've  learned ....  That I wish I could have told my Mom that I love her one  more time before she passed away.

I've  learned ....  That one should keep his words both soft and tender, because  tomorrow he may have to eat them.

I've  learned .....  That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your  looks.

I've  learned .....  That when your newly born grandchild holds your little  finger in his little fist, that you're hooked for  life.

I've  learned ....  That everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all  the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it.

I've  learned ....  That the less time I have to work with, the more things I  get done.
To all of you.... Make sure you read all  the way down to the last  sentence.

1) What should a woman do if she finds herself alone in the company of a strange male as she enters a lift in a high-rise apartment or building late at night?
Experts say: Enter the lift. If you need to reach the 13th floor, press all the buttons up to your destination. No one will dare attack you in a lift that stops on every floor.

2) What to do if a stranger tries to attack you when you are alone in your house, run into the kitchen.
Experts say: You alone know where the chili powder and turmeric are kept. And where the knives and plates are. All these can be turned into deadly weapons. If nothing else, start throwing plates and utensils all over. Let them break. Scream. Remember that noise is the greatest enemy of a molester. He does not want to be caught.

3) Taking a Taxi at Night.
Experts Say: Before getting into an auto at night, note down its registration number. Then use the mobile to call your family or friend and pass on the details to them in the language the driver understands .Even if no one answers your call, pretend you are in a conversation. The driver now knows someone has his details and he will be in serious trouble if anything goes wrong. He is now bound to take you home safe and sound. A potential attacker is now your de facto protector!

4) What if the driver turns into a street he is not supposed to and you feel you are entering a danger zone?
Experts say: Use the handle of your purse or your stole to wrap around his neck and pull him back. Within seconds, he will feel choked and helpless. In case you don’t have a purse or stole just pull him back by his collar. The top button of his shirt would then do the same trick.

5) If you are stalked at night.
Expert Say: enter a shop or a house and explain your predicament. If it is night and shops are not open, go inside an ATM box. ATM centers always have close circuit television. Fearing identification, no one will dare attack you.
After all, being mentally alert is the greatest weapon you can ever have.
Please forward to all the women you care about to spread awareness as this is the least we can do for a social & moral cause and for the safety of our women.
Men ~ Please forward to your moms, sisters, wives, relatives, lady friends, etc.
Better safe than sorry, right?