Character is marriage, marriage is character. The success or failure of marriage is a function of character. Most times bad character destroys marriage more than any other things in life.

1. Understanding.
Understanding is an inevitable tool for every woman that wants to live with her husband throughout a life-time in marriage. Living with a man requires high level of understanding of the make gender and understanding is a deliberate character that needed to be built by a woman who want to succeed in marriage. Don’t just act like every other woman, take time to understand why men act the way they do, understand marriage, love, sex, in-laws, crisis management, parenting and financial management.

2. Perseverance.
Perseverance means continued steady effort to achieve an aim in spite of difficulty. This is a character which every woman should develop in order to make their marriage work. At times, the husband may be heady, difficult, beats, maltreat you, your in-laws may pose as a threat to you in that marriage, there may be delay in childbirth, and all these challenges should not force you to quit your marriage. Rather, persevere. Don’t surrender your marriage to pressure, you will soon overcome.

3. Teachability.
No matter your age, academics qualification or exposure life, you must be humble enough to be taught by your husband. Even if you think you know more than him, listen to him, allow yourself to be corrected and don’t be stubborn. Men generally love women with teachable spirit. Diligently work on yourself to develop teachable character in life.

4. Good Communication.
It is the mouth that signifies the commencement of a marital relationship because it is when the mouth pronounce the statement “yes I do” during wedding that you are proclaimed husband and wife. That same mouth can destroy the marriage if not well managed. Be a communication expert. Speak positively, speak with humility. Avoid vulgar words like you’re a fool, you are stupid, foolish man, I will divorce you, etc. Make use of statements like “I am sorry, I am proud of you, please, thank you” etc.

5. Friendliness.
“A man that hath friends must show himself friendly”. Proverbs 18:24a. Successful marriage is a friendship taken so deep. Consciously make yourself likeable and lovable. Don’t be too ‘serious’ have a friendly look. A good welcoming look, welcoming smiles and character will get your husband attracted to you. No man will want to be with a frowning, stubborn and contentious wife. Be friendly in your speech, actions and reactions. Strange women normally demonstrate high level on friendliness to win other people’s husband. As a woman, demonstrate friendliness to retain your husband.

6. Humility.
Humility is an essential character to build a successful marriage. Relate and speak with all humility. Humility will get you attached to your spouse while pride will make you repulsive to him. Come down, bow down to your husband if you want him to stick to you forever. Humility and submissive wives don’t get beaten by their husbands. Be humble enough to take to correction. Be humble enough to allow your husband to speak while you listen to him. It takes a humble woman to win the heart of her husband.

7. Goodliness.
Goodliness connotes godly character and way of life. Don’t just be a member of a denomination, be godly in your conversation, actions, attitudes and dressing. You can’t be godly and be insulting, disobeying, or keeping malice with your husband and his family. Be godly indeed and let there be reflection of goodliness in all that you do.

8. Industrious.
Successful marriage is a hard work and men generally love hard working women. Industrious wives are hardworking wives. As a wife, you need a develop a positive attitude towards work. Avoid being lazy, when you are lazy, your house will be dirty. You will be a liability to your husband. Don’t be a full-time house wife, work with your hands and be a pillar of support for your husband and children. Though, you may not have a white collar job, you can create a job for yourself by trading with your talents and also engage in other

9. Selflessness.
Selflessness is one of the major killers of marriage. Never allow any traits of selflessness to raise its ugly head in your life. Imbibe the attitude of selfishness by caring for your husband and other people than yourself. Considering the needs of your husband ahead of your own will make you get more than what you bargain for because great wives are celebrated not for what they did for themselves but for what they did for their husbands.

10. Respect.
Every husband wants respect from their wife. If you want peace in that marriage, respect your husband. No matter his height, level of academics qualifications or financial life; respect him. As a wife, you may have a better qualification, richer and more exposed; all these notwithstanding give him respect. Let him talk, obey his decisions and let his opinion counts.