BY PST SAMUEL OLAGBENJO

1. Never Go Into A relationship Until You Know Where You Are Going In Life. Discover your purpose for living! Purpose comes before a relationship. So any man who has not discovered his purpose is not fit for marriage. You must have a purpose to pursue in life before thinking of a relationship. Who are you? Where are you going? What do you have to offer? What can you die for? What is your assignment on earth? You were born to solve a problem. Discover it! Your prosperity lies in your purpose. Your purpose is your ministry. It is your calling. Your purpose is your destiny. There is no destiny without a purpose. Your purpose should guide you on the choice of a marriage partner.

2. Never Propose To A Lady If You Are Not Sure Of God’s Leading.

A pastor was attracted to a committed sister in a church and married her. Only for him to discover after their wedding that she was sent to destroy his life and ministry. Be sure you are convinced by the Holy Spirit before making your intention known to a sister no matter how committed she is to her church or fellowship. PRAY! Since God is the author of marriage, it is very important to consult Him before choosing a life partner. Your physical eyes cannot see beyond the physical appearance (Container). It is only God that sees the heart of someone (Content). So let God guide you so that you won’t fall into trouble. Proverbs 3:5-7

3. If You Can’t Control Your Anger, You Have No Business Going Into A Relationship/Marriage. I’ve seen men that beat their women like babies. I’ve seen and read about men that killed their wives out of anger. Anger is destructive. Anger is one word short of danger. No wonder the Bible says “Make no friendship with an angry man”. Proverbs 22:24.  Anger is a killer and a destroyer. An angry person is a potential killer. Ask for the spirit of patience, be considerate and accommodating. Wife battery, separation and divorce, can be traced to anger. Anger is one of the potent weapons of the devil against marriage. So work on your anger.

4. Never Double Date.
Being in two relationships at the same time is an act of unfaithfulness and indecision. It lowers your integrity and lays a wrong foundation for your marriage. Any single man who double-dates, is a polygamist in the making.  Double daters are unreliable and unstable. They are players, gamblers and heartbreakers. If you have the spirit of double dating, open up now and let all the group member deliver tonight.  You need deliverance. "A double minded person is unstable in all His ways "

5. Never Insist You Must Have Sex With A Woman Before Marriage.

Sleeping with a girl that has not been handed over to you in marriage is robbery. A real man who truly loves his fiancée will not unbutton her blouse and pull her skirt until wedding night. Run away from premarital sex before it destroys your life. Let holiness and the fear of God prevail in your courtship as children of God. Discipline yourself. If you are not disciplined, you are not fit to be a disciple of Christ.  Many singles have jeopardized the hope of a glorious future by falling into sexual sins.  Don’t join them.

6. Never Insist Your Intending Spouse Should Be Pregnant For You Before Marriage.

No marriage, No pregnancy. Only two people are expected to be joined together on a wedding day, the bride and the groom. Any idea to become pregnant before marriage is unscriptural. Avoid anything that will stain your marital glory. Any idea that is against the biblical standard is bound to fail. Never allow any bad seed to be sown in the foundation of your marriage. Stick to the biblical counsel to stay away from sex before marriage. Obey God’s word and divine backing on your marriage.

7. Don’t Pretend To Be Who You Are Not And Claim To Have What You Lack.

Love cannot be built on a foundation of falsehood. Anyone that is not faithful is unreliable and not fit for marriage. Liars don’t make good husbands. A true relationship is when you can tell each other the truth. No secrets and no lies. You don’t need to lie in order to win the heart of your partner. If she really loves you, she will accept you for who you are. Don't tell a woman you have Bsc while you only have primary school certificate. A lady left her fiancé last week because of this lie.  He lied he had Bsc in Criminology but he only have Secondary School Cert. Lolz. You must be open, sincere, honest plain and transparent without any form of hypocrisy, hidden agenda or deception.

8. Learn To Give.

If you are not a giver, you are not a lover. Stinginess is not holiness. The proof of love is sacrificial giving and nothing can be too small or too big, if it comes from a sincere and generous heart. Getting married to a stingy person is one of the greatest mistakes a lady can make. No reasonable lady will want to marry a brother who is extremely stingy unless she wants to be a second wife to hunger and frustration. There is no point asking a woman to come into your life when you are stingy. Learn to give in Jesus name.

9. Don’t Be Lazy.

There are married men who sit at home, read newspaper, watch tv, eat, have sex and sleep while their wives go out to find money. Such men are disgrace to humanity. Laziness is a sin! If nobody employs you, employ yourself. The Bible disapproves of laziness. If you have the habit of sleeping all day, watching television all night and refuse to produce anything significant with your life, you have no business with a relationship. If we have married men whose wives feed in this group, stop eating and starting fasting from tomorrow. Go out and get something doing Men! Laziness is one of the quickest ways to poverty. A man must not have a lazy attitude to work. You must be diligent. Get involved in business that will yield money. Be financially responsible.

10.  Never Go Into A Relationship Until You Know What Love Means.

You must learn how to express your love to a woman. You must care and treat a woman like a queen. Love is not kissing and romancing. Love is not pre-marital sex. Love is a total commitment to the well-being of someone you love. You must be ready to commit your life to helping her grow and become all that she can be. A woman needs much more than ‘I love you,’ she needs your commitment.
You must create time to be with her, call her, send her text messages and learn to treat her with respect. Protect her. Celebrate her. Be kind to her and never rebuke her in public. Don’t raise your voices on each other. Learn to say ‘I am sorry’ when you offend her.

11. Never Propose To A sister If You Do Not Intend To Get Married In The Next One Year. Life is too short to be wasted on a relationship without prospects. Avoid long courtships and do not make it too short either, as both can be dangerous. Courtships should not be less than six months and should not go for more than one or two years. No matter how long you court your fiancée, you can never fully know and understand everything about her until you both get married and live together
Those of you in "Methuselah Courtship" need deliverance.

12. Never Fail To Give Your Life To Christ Before Going Into A Relationship.

The First Thing You Need Before Dreaming About Love Is JESUS! It is an error to seek first a relationship before seeking first the kingdom of God and His righteousness. The best day of your life is when you give your life to God. Not when you find love. If you must have a marriage without sorrow, you need God. A Marriage Without Christ Is Bound To Experience Marital Crisis.

May God Give You More Wisdom In Jesus Name!